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[vampyrarchy.livejournal.com]

Hey, Homies.

I'm trying to think of how to say things in the best order that would make sense for you. And it's hard.

I'm 15 years old. 3 years menstruating. Not sexually active. Not on bc.

My period is usually irregular (i.e. coming anywhere between every month to every four months). Right now it's about two and a half months late. Is it all all possible that I am pregnant through divine conception?

The problem is that I am constantly paranoid that my period is going to start. Every time I feel anything going on down there, I have to rush to the bathroom to make sure that I didn't start bleeding. And that happens multiple times a day because I have freakishly heavy discharge (...does anyone know if that's a bad thing?). I have to wear a pantiliner every day.

When I do have periods, they are 6-7 days of very heavy bleeding and moderate-to-bad cramps.

I would ask my mum to put me on birth control, but my parents are currently weirded out by my friendship with an 18-year-old-boy (NOT dating, by the way-- just friends. I promise). And I think they wouldn't believe me if I told them that it was just regulate periods.

PLUS my mom is a card-carrying hippie, and I'm sure she wouldn't believe that putting me on birth control "just" to regulate periods is important.

So, all this in mind, do you think that I should pursue the birth control or just sit back and suffer? Do you think that I should get myself checked out?

Any comments are greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for your time.

- The Bonnie

Comments

[rainbowpussy.livejournal.com]

at your age and everything, i wouldnt do birth control unless you're sexually active (im the same age, but i do have sex, hence the BC). the first 4 years of menstruation are generally pretty irregular, so it'll probably get better in the next year.

[moonborn.livejournal.com]

Birth control can screw your system around, so it's something to be careful of when you're gonna take it. :)

My first couple of years were all over the shop - in fact, I never got regular periods until the end of highschool, so don't stress none on that point. Your body's changing so much, and highschool was so stressful I think it was bound to happen.

Maybe you could try keeping a journal? Start a watch on yourself for any of the usual period symptoms, and write down if you get them on a particular day. After a few months, you might be able to get a clearer idea of just exactly what signals your period coming, so you can not stress out about it too much. :)

[lionsmiles.livejournal.com]

I started my period when I was 12 and it never regulated till I was about 17. Give it time. But if you want to ask about alternatives to bc to regulate your period try asking at the naturalmed or naturalliving communities.

[ourika.livejournal.com]

If you have not been sexually active at all (no sperm coming near your vagina) then I would put any fear of pregnancy out of your head.

I didn’t experience regular periods until I was 21 years old, and I started menstruating when I was about 11. It’s not that unusual, actually. Many women’s bodies take years to adjust to a “normal” schedule. Birth control pills do regulate periods, but not only do they need to be taken everyday about the same time, they also have a whole list of side effects. Sometimes it takes a while to find a pill that works for you (and sometimes women find the “perfect” pill for them the first time). And in the meantime, the pill can mess-up your period even more. There are other options to the constant anxiety of worry that you’ll start bleeding.

You said your mom’s a card-carrying hippie. You may be able to sit down and talk with her about birth control, or at least talk to her about your lack of regularity and see if she’s got other suggestions, or if you’re worried that something is wrong, you may want to talk to her about going to see a doctor (even if you end up not going on bc). She (or a doctor) may also be able to help you with a healthier diet as well as work through some other stresses in your life. All of these things can affect your period.

I do know the fear you talk about (thinking, “Oh no, it’s here,” and rushing to check several times a day), and it can be stressful since you don’t know when you’ll bleed next. Instead of wearing a pantyliner everyday, when you start being worried that you may bleed soon (if it’s been a month or two since your last period), you could start wearing regular pads instead of pantyliners. That way, if you DO start bleeding, you’ll be protected until the next time you get to the bathroom. Then there’s no fear that you’ll bleed through the pantyliner and make a mess, and there’s no constant running to check every time you dribble.

Heavy discharge is also not something to be concerned about. Unless it burns/itches or smells “yeastie” or rotten, it’s probably just heavy discharge. I have heavy discharge, too.

[voidofher.livejournal.com]

I have heavy discharge too... i know that feeling, thinking you got your period and checking all the time only to find that it was just discharge. its annoying. but if you get to know your body, you can tell when you're going to get your period.. like, my boobs get sore about a week before my period starts, and i get a feeling in my stomach (no, not cramps, just a feeling) right before it starts, so i can tell when it really started.
im 17 now, i've had my period for 4 years and it was irregular up until about a year ago when it started to come on time every month. i think you should just wait and see what happens, maybe it'll work out by itself. you could also use CyclesPage.com (http://www.cyclespage.com/) to keep track of your periods, it helped me alot.

[thejoysofjess.livejournal.com]

i started when i was 12. i'm 18 now, and still not regular (actually, i will be now, birth control). i run anywhere from a 22 day cycle to a 42 day cycle, and that is a pain.

stress can mess with it, are you especially stressed out recently? the last month of my senior year i just didn't have one becuase i was all stressed out about exams.