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[sarasasasa.livejournal.com]

i just tried to put on a tampon for the first time, and i couldn't get it in, when i pushed the tampon in it hurt so i gave up, now i'm a little sore. i'm really preocupated because i'm afraid that if i can't get a tampon in, what will i do when i want to have sex?? and it's not so far away...i don't know what to do :(
i was nervous when i was inserting it but relaxed at the same time. the worst part is that i can insert a finger and it doesn't hurt, but when i try to get the tampon in it hurts like hell, please help me!!!
sorry as always for the spelling

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[kwokj.livejournal.com]

I remember trying a tampon for the first time, and I think my biggest ouchie-causing mistake was the angle. Wait until you aren't sore and pay attention to the angle when you insert your finger and give it another try. Good luck.

[babybloodheart.livejournal.com]

Don’t be worried about not getting a tampon in.
What strikes me is that you don’t seem too keen on the idea of using a tampon, so given that they are unhealthy, they are causing you pain and you really don’t seem to want to really use them then why are you trying so hard to use tampons?
The likelihood is that you were not relaxed, don’t worry about it, if you are going to use tampons then use a smooth edged tampon, insure that it is the right absorbency (try using a smaller size) and apply some lubricant onto the end – although your menstrual blood and discharge should be enough to get the tampon in the extra lubricant will make it easier and help avoid irritation and damage done by the dryness of the tampon when inserting. Make sure to relax – try inserting one while lying down on your bed, legs apart and keep yourself calm, don’t think about it.
The pain is more than likely the tampon causing irritation on the way in, tampons are dry, so when they rub on areas which are normally moist they are going to hurt, this is why they are linked with irritation and splitting, if you are tensing up through nerves then this is going to make this worse.
When it comes to sex you will be relaxed [or at least I would hope so!] and as well as this if you are sexually aroused then you will have your natural lubricants to help ease the penis in, the vagina is very accommodating when ready. I’m going to sound patronizing here, however if you are this concerned about sex then I would say that it is going to be a while before you are ready for sex, tampons shouldn’t be forced and sex shouldn’t be forced, you have to be relaxed and there has to be some sort of lubrication.

[sarasasasa.livejournal.com]

thanks for your comments.
i'm not VERY keen on using tampons because i actually have no problems using pads. but i wanted to try one because tomorrow a friend invited me to his country house and i'd like to be able to get into the swimming pool. it's also something that always intriged me, many people have told me that they are very confortable once you get used to them. i guess i didn't try a lot and in different ways to put it in because i got scared when i felt sore so maybe tomorrow i'll try again, is it ok if i put some water on the top? because i don't have lubricant.
Also the thing about sex, i would never let anyone force me to have sex. i told my fear because i'm with my boyfriend since a long time and i'd like very much to have sex for the first time with him, and i'm a little afraid of the pain and all that, although i know that depends of the person and the arousal. maybe i'm not ready yet, so i'll do it when i'm sure i want to do it and i feel ready.
thanks again for your advice. and sorry if some parts didn't make sense, i'm a spanish girl.

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[achtungbaby.livejournal.com]

DO NOT PUT WATER ON TOP! the water will make the tampon itself expand.
what kind of applicator are you using? plastic or cardboard? that has alot to do with it too. they are kinda rare to find, but if you could find a jr sized tampon that would be your best bet on getting one in easily. they are made thinner for teens that are just starting to try them out.

and about being worried about sex. the penis is very VERY flexible. more flexible than your finger. a tampon applicator is stiff and has no contortion at all. dont worry about having sex vs. tampon insertion.

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[kwokj.livejournal.com]

Just to let you know, I have never had any difficulty understanding your posts. Your English is just fine :)

If you don't have any lubricant to use with the tampon, you can use a small amount of olive oil.

[sarasasasa.livejournal.com]

the one that you eat????? ewwwww

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[kwokj.livejournal.com]

yes, that's what I meant :) but it was late, and I couldn't think of the other things you could use. Do you have any baby oil (mineral oil) or petroleum jelly (vaseline)?

[sarasasasa.livejournal.com]

i have no idea what kind of applicator has the tampon, i don't think it has.
thanks for your help!

[alalei.livejournal.com]

Not that I am encouraging pre-maritial sex, I really believe waiting is best and right, but if you do, don't be discouraged if everything doesn't work out right at first, especially if your boyfriend is a virgin, too.

My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. We agreed that we probably wouldn't even try to have sex on the wedding night, since we'd probably be too tired and nervous anyway. That turned out to be a very good idea. We took the advice of a Christian sex book (for virgins) and had him slowly, gently, probably with lube, too, slide a finger or two into me and gently push down. This is to help stretch you out. We did that for awhile and a couple of times on the wedding night and the next day. We tried, rather unsuccesfully, to have sex for the next few days, but having him in me hurt a lot depending on the angle. I was very excited in a few days when we managed to have very gentle sex. Over the next month or so, I still would sometimes hurt, we had to be careful with the angle, but it got easier and easier as I got more stretched out.

People's bodies are different! Maybe some women can have easy, wild, passionate sex for their first time, but don't be surprised if you have to go slowly at first. Make sure your first time is with someone who is kind, understanding, and willing to go as slowly as you need to. (Being married is great for this!) Talk to him about your concerns well in advance. If you aren't comfortable to talk about it with him, you are not ready for sex. Do NOT try sex for the first time without lube! It is a must. He must wear a condom; please try to be safe. Try not to have huge expectations for your first time. If it is easy and wonderful, great! If it is difficult at first, don't worry - it gets a LOT better!

P.S. Don't worry about the tampons - I never really liked or used them before I had sex. Also, a few months before I got married, my doctor gave me 4 or 5, um...stretcher-outers...plastic applicator type things. The first one was pretty small, and each one got gradually bigger, so that I could get my vagina used to accomadating a penis. It was hard and it hurt to put them in! I don't think I ever got past the second size. It worried me, and I would tell my then fiance, "If I can't even get these in me, how are you supposed to fit???" But the other girls are right - a penis is a lot different, more flexible, than applicators.

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[kwokj.livejournal.com]

My parents didn't have sex on their "wedding night" either :) They were so exhausted running interferance with relatives that they just drove as far out of town as they could, checked into a motel and fell asleep. They didn't wake up again for over 24 hours!

(btw, I think the "stretcher-outers" are called dilators.)

[kelism.livejournal.com]

I couldn't comfortably wear a tampon for awhile after I first started getting my period. You do have to be sure you relax and lubricant can help. I also agree about the angle - it has to aim much more straight up and down that you would think...aim towards the small of your back

[thecatspajamas.livejournal.com]

use a tampon with a plastic applicator like Tampax Pearl. Try getting the multipax because they come with a "lite" size which is about the size of a pinky finger. plastic applicators made it soooo much easier for me to use tampons, and other than that, just make sure you arent dry so that its easier to insert.

[voidofher.livejournal.com]

i know this is a little late, but i thought i'd comment anyway...

you should probably try the smallest tampons you can find, and try different positions. it hurt a little for me too at first, but then i just sat on the toilet and put one in while sitting and it was much easier, you could try that.
the most important thing is to relax. good luck. <3