I'm scared...

[dorkymanduh.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry if this isn't asked in the correct community, but I asked you guys questions before and you all were extremely nice to me, so I wanted to ask here again :)

well some of you may remember me.. I wrote in about a month ago when I got my period after having sex and it was pretty light.. I was afarid I could still be pregnant, etc. and after finally calming down, my period got heavier and I went for the full 7 days of my period.

now, a month later, I should be getting my period any day now, and it still hasn't come. I did one of those 'track your cycles' online and it said I should've started Sunday.. but those cycles are for 28 days, when mine usually goes for 30 days. today is my 'due day'. I'm still really scared though, if my period never comes, could I be pregnant? I don't think I have any symptoms of pregnancy.. I haven't been peeing more than usual or anything like that.. but I have been extremely moody for the past 2 weeks.. and I have been slightly crampy today and yesturday. I'm just really nervous. I never took a pregnancy test last time because I thought since my period got heavier, I couldn't be pregnant..

also another factor in this is that I'm starting the pill with this period. and I'm extremely excited about being on it because I know I'll feel so much better knowing I have that protection now. could it be the excitement of starting the pill that has me alittle late? If I don't start my period by this weekend, I'm going to make my boyfriend get me a pregnancy test.. :\ any comments would help <3 thanks, and again, I'm sorry if this wasn't posted in the correct community, I just didn't know where else to go.

Comments

[sulingsi.livejournal.com]

what protection were you using before the pill?

if it was condoms and you were using them correctly, i would say you are pretty safe and don't worry so much! i'm glad you're getting on hormonal BC. good luck with that!

[crassy.livejournal.com]

Offtopic, but OOLONG!!

So sad that he died :(

[dorkymanduh.livejournal.com]

yes, it was a condom. I believe we used it properly.. we always check afterwards for any leaks or holes, and I know he did the last time we had sex [about 2 months ago] and there wasn't any. I'm such worry wart that I know the pill will definately ease my worries. and thanks! <3

[achtungbaby.livejournal.com]

If I don't start my period by this weekend, I'm going to make my boyfriend get me a pregnancy test..

then calm down till the weekend!! (easier said than done, i know, but try please.)
stress wont help you, and if your last period was a little different, it probably means that this period will be different too.

you'll be ok in the end.

[dorkymanduh.livejournal.com]

thanks.. I know I need to calm down.. I'm such a worry wart! haha

[ourika.livejournal.com]

There's a great community for this sort of question called amipregnant. It's dedicated entirely to helping women if they're worried about possible pregnancies. I highly recommend it.

And if you're this nervous every month, it is great that you're going on the pill this month. Cycles can go wonky due to changes in environment. They can also go wonky because of stress. It's a viscious cycle. You're worried that you had penal/vaginal intercourse so you could be pregnant. So the stress of your fears makes your period late. You then see that your period is late, and the fears get worse so the period stays late. Why wait till the weekend? It's $10 peace of mind, and it could help you not freak out for the next few days.

[dorkymanduh.livejournal.com]

very true.. but my problem is I was just grounded last night for 'not going to dinner' [yeah I know, stupid reason] but now I have no way of getting out there to buy one. :\ I'd ask my boyfriend but I have absolutely no way of seeing him anytime soon.. thanks for that link too, I'm going to post in there :)

[ourika.livejournal.com]

Well then, the only thing for you to do is to try to keep calm about this. Do something offline that takes your attention away from this. Clean out your closet or that drawer in your dresser that everything is just shoved into. If you've got a list of chores that need to be done weekly, do whatever you can today. It'll keep you busy and it may even make you look like a good girl in the eyes of whoever grounded you (of course, they may not care, but it's not for them, it's for you). If you have to do certain things every Saturday, you can still do them today. If you have to do them again Saturday, it won't be as much work (for example, a full dusting of the house done today and Saturday means that there won't be as much to dust on Saturday).

Whatever you can do to keep your mind and hands occupied, do it. It'll help you not stress. And when you find your mind moving to the, "I'm worried I may be pregnant," area. Stop. Tell yourself, "I can't do anything about this right now. I'm probably not pregnant." And purposely change the topic in your head. If you can't find a topic, think about whatever is in front of you. If you're cleaning out your closet, contemplate the lines of the closet door. If you're vacuming the carpet, think about what you know about the history of carpets. Just think about something else. Very purposely. *grins* Aren't shag carpets funny looking? Do you ever wish you had a thick, blue carpet with lots of cushion underneath so walking around barefoot was like walking on big, white fluffy cottonball clouds? Etc. I know, it isn't always easy to turn your mind off and onto a topic, but you can't do anything about it other than make yourself sick with worry so try it. And turn your computer off. And stop checking replies to these emails. You're probably not pregnant. It's probably stress. A random person on the internet can't tell you if you are or aren't pregnant - only a pregnancy test can do that, so turn off the computer and do something completely unconnected to this fear of pregnancy.

I know. I sound mean. But really, there's nothing you can do, and worrying is not good for you!

[dorkymanduh.livejournal.com]

no no! you don't sound mean at all. your comment really entertained me and I find it so odd that I did a LOT of that today.. haha. I cleaned that cluttered draw and cleaned the house. lol. and it worked until now.. now that I have nothing to do. but I'm going to find something.. I'll clean my sisters room or something :) thanks so much <3