Some babbling that may include actual questions

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

Ever feel like the energizer bunny?

It just keeps going and going and going and going...

Bah.

My old roommate and I decided that, should we ever take over the world and thus gain control over reality... We would institute an option by which a female could decide exactly how they wanted to go about the process of menses. Whether they wanted it to be a reliable last few days of every month, a steady seven day light flow, or a monthly pre-scheduled date.

Myself, I always liked the idea of having just one day a month where, yeah, all the symptoms would hit you at once. Wake up in the middle of the night with cramps and that "I know what's about to happen" feeling in the belly, spend the day in some sort of contraption that would keep the process as sanitary as possible and come out at the end of the night ready to return to the world and not have to worry about it again until the next appointment. I mean, you could schedule work and other things around it, would always know what not to wear that day... Convenient both for those who just want to get it out of the way, and those who are intending to get pregnant (presumably having that date scheduled would make it easier to know exactly when the best time would be, right?)

I completly lost my train of thought, was just grumbling because I hate having the period during the weekend, cause that's the only time I get to spend with my boy and... while sex IS possible during that time, its just too icky to me... I hate the messy aspects of even normal sex. I'm still embarrassed because last month we had a party and I got superbly drunk, and being the horny sort of drunk I completely forgot that my period wasn't quite ended. It was on the last couple of days, so not as messy/gross as it could have been, but still... I went into the bathroom to throw the condom away and sobered up pretty quicik on discovering the mess... I couldn't even look him in the eye when I came back to tell him he would want to clean up... Or when he came back to find me changing the sheets so I could wash the ones that'd been on the bed before.

I don't know how weird a hangup this is... One of my first boyfriends, it didn't matter how messy it might get... Maybe it was just becuase he was away at college and we only saw each other every few weeks, and didn't want to waste the time we did have... Or maybe its because of him that I have the hangup now. I don't have many female friends, but the couple that I do have say they don't mind it at all, and one of them swears that sex is the only thing that can ease her cramps... and neither of their guys complain about it... and my boyfriend didn't seem weirded out by it in the least.

Is it just some weirdness related to my dislike of even normal messy sex (I demand condom use as much for mess containment as protection purposes)... or are my friends who enjoy it this way the more normal ones of the scenario?

Comments

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure what's normal. I don't mind kinda messy sex, but I can't do the period sex thing. Maybe if it's towards the end and we're in the shower, but a bloody penis is just too gross for me to handle.

But everyone is different. My bf doesn't mind and maybe someday you & I won't either.

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

Its more the mess that gets everywhere else, on the sheets and all that sort of thing.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

Yeah I had a hard enough time getting the blood off my pillow from when I scratched a zit in my sleep. I don't need that kind of mess.

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

well, peroxide and/or cold water are useful... but still.

yeah.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

Yup, bottom line...ick. Haha

[char.livejournal.com]

i can't do the messy sex much either. i'm paranoid about staining my sheets, or that my boyfriend will think it's gross and get turned off (which would probably never happen).
showers really are a great option in that case. it's easy to clean up, and you can make it fun by washing each other afterwards. but still, i only do it on the last day or too. if that.
it's just who we are. don't stress yourself out about it. enjoy the fact that you will have fewer ruined sheets ;)

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

lol

I don't stress, really... Its just annoying. I only spend the weekends there, and a lot of the time we're too tired or busy to have time, and it seems like whenever we do have time... this gets in the way.

I do know of a couple of guys who not only enjoy, prefer... but actually get into the period sex thing as bloodplay, but while some kinky things may look interesting on paper, there are others that I'm just way too tame to even imagine trying, lol.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

Ever try using insteads?

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

I don't think they'd work very well for us... usually he prefers me to be on top, and I can't imagine that it wouldn't get moved or that he wouldn't notice...

(this part is going to sound stupid as I don't know exactly what's what) my cerevix? Uterus? The part that hangs down in there, is huge... some kinds of tampons when I use them poke at it kind of painfully... and when I'm actually on my period and it gets shifted, prodded, or anything like that, the bleeding gets worse if that makes sense. (tmi, huge "glops" of tissue and blood).

I was looking over a website someone posted in response to another question I asked, and have looked at some others that people sent me saying that it sounds like I may have endometri(I can't spell it)... and one of hte things I read last night is that a historectomy (which I also can't spell) is an option... Since I have no intention of having children of my own, I don't mind the idea at all... so its another thing to go on my list of questions for when I talk myself into actually getting into a planned parenthood or finding a gyno.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

You know, that may sound like an easy fix, but it's not usually like you have it removed & you're all better like you would with a bad kidney. That can cause a lot of issues with hormones, estrogen production, your bladder, etc. I know a few women (older) who have had histerectomies and went into early menopause at like 30 because of the shock to their bodies.

It's possible that you may have a tilted uterus which could cause real discomfort when trying to insert things at certain angles.

[sulingsi.livejournal.com]

endometriosis is a fairly common problem. hysterectomy is one of the things they do, but remember that when you have a hysterectomy you go through menopause, no matter how old you are. menopause is not fun. i've also been told that being on hormonal birth control helps prevent endometriosis or at least prevent it from getting worse, so that's what i do, since it seems to run in my family.

[ranata.livejournal.com]

It's too messy for me to even want to try. Plus my boyfriend will not have sex with me at all when I am on my period. He doesn't even want me touching him sexually as things might get going and he's left with a hard-on. I wouldn't call you abnormal and I wouldn't call them normal. It's just a preference, I guess.

[kaylan.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend refuses to have sex when I'm on my period. My last boyfriend didn't mind, and I dont really care either way. I just get frustrated when I'm horny and the boy won't comply... Especially when he's horny too and just refuses to touch me.