fingers...

[tinydancer7.livejournal.com]

i was in the store today and i almost bought Insteads. i had them in my hand and i was ready to leave the store. but then i read the back of the box and how you use them. i took it to mean that i'd have to stick my fingers inside myself to get it out. i never liked doing that. i have this finger phobia. am i totally weird?

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[crassy.livejournal.com]

Nope. I am the same way. It isn't that I am uncomfortable with my body or anything, I just have this thing about fishing around inside of my body for something which should not be there. I also have a phobia of putting anything manufactured up my cunt. Unless it is a penis or a tongue, it doesn't enter me :)

Don't worry, you aren't weird at all :)

[crassy.livejournal.com]

That should read that I am not uncomfy with my body.

[stratyllis.livejournal.com]

Well, I personally think that it sounds as if you hate your body to some degree. But I am not an expert or anything so feel free to ignore me.

[barisaxyvet.livejournal.com]

I would suggest buying one of the trial packs of the instead cups. I used them before I got my diva cup.

Here's the thing:
you actually hardly have to put your fingers into your vagina to retrieve them, anyway, since that is what you seem to feel odd about. The front rim of the cup will sit just up your vaginal canal from your pubic bone. If you bear down, you probably won't have to reach up for it at all.

That is my experience, anyway. But I don't really understand not wanting to put your fingers in your cunt, though. It is all part of knowing, understanding, and loving your body. I think that it is really fucking empowering, myself. I recommend taking that step toward becoming a cunt-lovin' woman.

Good luck.

[tinydancer7.livejournal.com]

i love every part of me... i just don't know what it is about my vagina that creeps me out. well... i should rephrase that. i love my vagina... i just get weirded out by how it feels. i dunno.
i gotta work on it.

[barisaxyvet.livejournal.com]

I say, make it fun! Make an evening of it. I like to treat myself to that every once in a while. You know, eat something I like, take a soothing bath and just explore. Also, I also find it helpful, as well as empowering (I know, I'm using that word a lot tonight) to actually know what is down there and what is going on down there. I am a scientist, but I think that this could apply to just about anybody: Look at pictures of the anatomy, read about it and how it all works. Demystify it in general and then start in on yourself personally. Get a plastic speculum and a hand mirror (as well as some sort of light-source [makeup mirrors work really well for this, as they have lights around them and are often magnifying]) and look into your vagina, look at your cervix. Claim them for yourself. Afterall, it's hard to to really embrace something that you don't know much about and have never really seen.
Above all, make it fun!

[emilime.livejournal.com]

i would like to take a look at my cervix! lol that sounds interesting to me for some reason :)

[barisaxyvet.livejournal.com]

I totally recommend it. I can't get most of my women friends to partake. But I LOVE it!!

[emilime.livejournal.com]

i agree with what this user has to say about insteads.

i love insteads so much! there really isn't much "fishing out" that is done. you really only need one finger to get it out. by sticking one finger in about half way while sitting you'll touch the rim of the cup. if you can't touch it then, you can bear down like you are having a bowel movement it slides forward some.

you can order a trial pack here http://store.yahoo.com/yhst-9187590948465/insostkit.html

it's $2.99 to cover the cost of shipping... but it also comes with a $2 coupon... so if you do end up liking the cups you are basically getting $2 back from the price of the trial kit.

[tinydancer7.livejournal.com]

neat!
thanks so much...

[emilime.livejournal.com]

no problem!

i'm such a big supporter of insteads. i've used them for a few months now and i haven't had a single leak! you can even wear them during sex on your period so it's not messy. my guy didn't even feel it at all.

i had to use a tampon last month as my period kind of suprised me, and i could really notice it. insteads are much more comfortable than tampons to me.

one thing also is don't be intimidated by their size. the first time i unwrapped one i was like "that's going where?!?!?" but it bends easily and slides right in.

[barisaxyvet.livejournal.com]

I totally echo the thing about tampons. But I would also add that I can now not really stand to wear them at all. I ran out of instead cups my last period and had to wear a tampon (organic 100% cotton, non-chlorine bleached) to the store to get more cups and I thought that my vagina was a raisin after I removed the tampon (a regular) that I had been wearing for less than one hour. It is amazing how much of the natural moisture that they suck from your vaginal walls! Soooo not very good for you!
june, if you love instead cups, I would suggest switching over to a diva cup or keeper, a non-disposable menstrual cup. Keep the instead cups around for having sex while on your period (if you or your partner prefers to be less "messy") but cut down on waste by using the other the rest of the time.
My diva cup is one of my favorite things in this world.

[emilime.livejournal.com]

that mositure thing is so true! also, my periods are shorter with cups. that's always a plus.

that is definately something i've been considering. i wanted to try out insteads for a few months to make sure that they work out well for me.

i will probably go ahead and order a diva cup this weekend when i sit down and sort out some finances.

i like how the diva cup is clear, unlike the keeper. do you find that it is just as comfortable as insteads?

[barisaxyvet.livejournal.com]

I actually find that it is more comfy that insteads. I know, you're probably thinking, "is that possible?!?" But it is. And here is why:
1) the silicone is much more maleable than even the soft plast ring on the edge of the soft cups
2) it doesn't fit AROUND anything. It just sits there, chillin' out in your cunt, not a care in the world. I, at times, found that the instead cups were difficult to direct to the correct spot late in my cycle and then, due to the dropping of my cervix, my vaginal canal would be shorter and the instead cup would bump again my pubic bone a bit, especially before the cup got nice and warm and maleable from being in there for a while.
3) which brings me to my third point, the silicone warms pretty much immediately to body temp.
(a great little exchange that we're having tonight, eh??)

[emilime.livejournal.com]

i quite enjoy the exchange :) lots of good info and you sound like my kind of gal.

the directing of the cup worried me a little... it seems more difficult to place than the insteads. it does come with a guarantee so i guess if i just never get used to positioning it then i can return it so no major loss there really.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

That definitely sounds like something you should get over. Being able to tell if something is wrong inside is important and you can't tell something is wrong if you don't know how it feels when it is right. The idea of not liking touching inside my pussy is totally alien to me, since I've been doing that since I was at least 12. It's a part of me. It's as much supposed to be there as my toes are.