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[cat666.livejournal.com]

I would just like to thank all of you wonderful people who made comments to my last post on here. At first I felt as if I was alone and I had noone to turn to and everthing was my fault, but after reading ALL the comments everone of them made me cry, and I knew I was not alone because there was people out there who had gone throw the same thing and just some people who gave good advice. I dont feel alone anymore, althou I know things are still going to be hard.

So today after I got home from school I went right to bed and fell asleep well I was waiting for my boyfriend to come over after he got off work. When he got here it was time to tell my mother. I was under my covers the hole time because I was so afread of what she would say, but she was not mad at all, we explaned everthing to her and she undershood it wasnt are fault, things happen.
She asked us if you had talked about it, and we kind of have. (Althou we both have very diffent ideas of what to do.) She also asked us when I toke the test, I told her last night and she said it is better to take it in the morning, so she told me she was going to go out later tonight and get a test and I could take it in the morning. And I have a doctors apointment tommrow and we would have me tested there as well.
I think im going to keep it. I just dont think that I could go throw with Adoption because I just think it would be to hard, and if I went throw with aborting it I would have to wait 12 weeks so that they could have something big anoff to get out. By 6weeks it starts to look like a very very little baby so I dont think I could go throw with aborting it. I know my boyfriend dosent want me to have it, but my mom said she and my family would help out in any way that they could.
Once again thanks to everone for your comments.

Comments

[dumbybean.livejournal.com]

It dosent matter what your boyfriend thinks. The law says its your decision, and thats how it is. If your family is willing to help, then its a great thing to have that suppourt. Personally I would try and keep him/her, but its up to you and I wish you the best of luck and happiness with your decision.

[achtungbaby.livejournal.com]

It dosent matter what your boyfriend thinks. The law says its your decision, and thats how it is.

thats very true, but she also needs to consider alot more things. even what her boyfriend feels. odds are he will play some roll in this child's life if she keeps the child. so yes, it totally matters what her boyfriend thinks as well.

[sterlingspider.livejournal.com]

Agreed. Making a decision of that nature without any regard to what he thinks on the matter is both selfish and cruel.

While ultimately the choice is and should be hers, how she chooses indelibly changes his life as much as hers and she should at least have the respect and maturity to recognise and address that.

[obvious.livejournal.com]

A) it doesn't look like a tiny baby at 6 weeks and B) who said you had to wait 12 weeks? Most places want you to wait 6-8 weeks in.

[yentruoc-64.livejournal.com]

True. A few months ago my period was 10 days late (ack!) and I took 1 test that said I was pregnant (and 6 others that said I wasnt...turns out, I got my period on the way to planned parenthood to get a test done - strange) but I called a clinic and inquired about abortion, etc etc (I am 17, a VERY competitive athlete, have big plans for myself... and even though my boyfriend and I have been together for 2.5 years and he is EVERYTHING I could ever want in my life and we have discussed one day getting married, having kids etc... We both knew that having a baby now was not even something I or he could consider. Even if I was to give it up for adoption... putting my life on hold for 9 months was something I can't do right now... ANYWAY) and I spoke to the woman and she said that the surgical abortions could take place pretty much whenever, but Medical abortions (where you take a series of pills and it basically forces you to have a miscarraige... less invasive than surgical, less physically painful - but some people have different reactions, as with all things. For some it's simply a "Stronger" period cramp type feeling for a few days, while for others it's an incredibly painful feeling etc) needs to happen after 6 weeks, but before like - 10 or something - so there is a very small window of opportunity for that option. Also - they need you to wait a period of time until they can see the baby in an ultrasound... to prove it's there or something. <33

[crassy.livejournal.com]

Whoa! Who told you that you had to wait 12 weeks? That is very untrue. The earlier the abortion happens, the less complicated and less painful the procedure is.

With that said, I am happy that you got it out into the open. Mothers are very good when you need to deal with the hard stuff. I got pregnant at 16 and didn't tell my mother. She found out after I had had an abortion and was so upset with me for not telling her and for me having to go through everything alone.

Please still keep us posted on what is happening :)

[livriyut.livejournal.com]

Yes, there are definitely lots of people eager to be supportive. Do keep us updated.

As I said before, I'm happy to lend any sort of advice / shoulder-to-cry-on / suggestions.

My boyfriend didn't stay with me once I was pregnant, and it sounds like your boyfriend isn't too keen on the idea of being a daddy, either. Be prepared for some rough patches... but remember that there are always people to talk to about it, even if you just need to vent.

Best of luck to you!!

[yentruoc-64.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry you had to go through this. I hope that you and your boyfriend are able to work this out and he can understand where you're coming from. It's also great to hear that your mother is so understanding. I wish you the best of luck. <33

[ladieophilia.livejournal.com]

I would have to say that the six weeks looking like a baby in not quite on key, but there are some that say they feel the baby before medical recognises it, so I can understand that it would be hard even at such an early point in the proceedure. There are going to be a lot of things that are going to be going through you, and I don't mean hormones. Young pregnancies are the hardest things that a girl can go through because outside influences may not recognises the possible goodness that this is. (btw, I am not religious, but spiritual, so I hope that no offence taken in the following statement) I feel that if all precautions are take and the outcome is a child, then there is a reason. Someone out there deserves a child, and the child deserves someone. It looks like you might be the someone, and I hope that the father is as well. I send you lots of strength, and I hope that ten years, twenty, fifty years down the road what ever choice you make in the end makes you happy and rewarded.

[(Anonymous)]

You have really bad grammar.

[cat666.livejournal.com]

Thanks jack ass I know this.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

Well since your mind is made up, and I'm proud of you for exploring your options before deciding, I will tell you this...

My friend had a baby just after her 18th birthday. She was pregnant through our senior prom and graduation, and was on & off with the baby's father. But you know what? Her parents, who she lives with, are some of the sweetest and most supportive parents I've ever met. They built a room in the basement for Tara's sister so the babys room could be next to her own. The babysit in the daytime while Tara goes to work, and now that the baby is getting older she's looking forward to starting some classes at the local community college.

It's hard for her, and every day presents new challenges, but I know she wouldn't have it any other way.