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[summer-breeze14.livejournal.com]

Hey all, I just joined this community. I'm 20 years old and I would greatly appreciate some advice...

I've had a boyfriend for 2 years now and we're extremely careful when we're together. We've never had intercourse and he's never penetrated me. However we participate in oral sex and he fingers me. There are times when we are both naked but I have a bad problem with anxiety and he knows that so we're very careful.

But my imagination sometimes runs away with me. Last month, he happened to touch the outer lip of my vagina near my abdomen while there was pre-cum on his finger. He was nowhere near my vulva, although I got nervous and repeatedly asked myself if I could get pregnant from it. This is how bad my anxiety gets.

So, the last time I got my period was April 6th. Its been a little over 30 days and I haven't gotten it yet. I have my usual PMS symptoms; breast tenderness, irritability, cramps, bachache, etc. But still no period. The more I think about it, the more stressed out I get. I can't help it.

I have a semi-regular cycle. A few months go by and I can be VERY regular and a couple of months later, it'll be off.

My question is this: is it possible to get pregnant without sexual penetration?

I should also mention that this past month I've been stressing out majorly on whether or not I was going to get into the top college I wanted. And also my part-time job, which I hate a lot. So maybe that's a factor?

PLEASE, advice would be greatly appreciated.

EDIT - Oh and I got into the top college I wanted, plus I quit my job and got a job that is less stress.

Comments

[crassy.livejournal.com]

I believe it is possible, but very unlikely. Sperm don't live that long outside of the body.

You need to stop stressing, a lot of the time, the stress is what is causing your period to be late. If you are that worried, go and buy a test and put yourself at ease.

[myselftheliar.livejournal.com]

the chances are EXTREMELY slim you are pregnant. like.... youre sooner going to be bitten by a shark. walking down the street.

calm down. sperm really dont survive well in ejaculate, let alone fingers. if you are REALLY that nervous, i suggest using condoms during foreplay activities.

[pontiuspilates.livejournal.com]

It's super, super-unlikely that you'd get pregnant from that. There's better odds on Satan and God falling in love with each other.

When I was still dating boys, I used to have the same paranoia and it's easier to keep the pregnancy-phobia gremlins out of your mind when you see the negative pregnancy test in front of you. So sometimes it can help to drop some cash on a pregnancy test, just to set your mind at ease.

[krasota.livejournal.com]

He touched your belly? You're not pregnant.

Now, stressing about being pregnant can certainly make your period play hide and seek.

Congrats on getting into the school you wanted!

[star-drifter.livejournal.com]

Oh honey, if he didn't even touch your vulva there's no chance you are pregnant. I was the same way you are when I first started becoming sexually active. Just make sure you're absolutely ready before you go any further, also look into some contraceptive (like oral contraceptives or Depo) if it will help calm your nerves a bit with even the pre-intercourse activities.

Stress definitely has a big part of your periods regularity, also changes in diet, exercise, emotional stress. A lot of things. I once went three months without my period when I wasn't sexually active, for absolutely no reason, and then one day it just showed up. It's likely just running a few days late from one reason or another, even though you have a less stress job and recently got into college (congrats), these things can still play havoc on your stress levels and hormone levels.

Just wait it out, it'll come around! :)

[sena7.livejournal.com]

you're 20 been with him for 2 years with no actual sex and you're worried you're pregnant?!?

what planet do you live on?

sorry. I'm just a amazed that you'd worry about this or at your age know so little...dosen't reassure me on sex ed in this country. Its stress. Nothing more. And stressing that its not coming is only going to make it worse.

[nzgoddess.livejournal.com]

she asked a question - NOT to be insulted !

it IS possible to get pregnant without penetration ... maybe YOU need to learn a little more .. both about reproduction & sensitivity to others ..

[sena7.livejournal.com]

First off let me say that I can say whatever I want to whomever I want in regards to a public post. I do not need someone who obviously doesn't comprehend what I was saying to attempt to censure or tell me how to behave.

I know that she can get pregant without vaginal penetration....a whopping 8% of couples who have anal sex get pregnant from that way alone a year. I'm a sexology major....don't try to tell me things that I already know.

oh and by the way I only have sympathy for her. But she should really consider using protection even if its just oral if she is nervous. Safety of body and of mind is always the best policy in regards to sex. And as for the stress.....congrats on the school acceptance I know how hard the competition is and now you just have to face the stress of maintaining a GPA. Good Luck

[nzgoddess.livejournal.com]

lol @ u

[zinnea.livejournal.com]

....a whopping 8% of couples who have anal sex get pregnant from that way alone a year. I'm a sexology major....don't try to tell me things that I already know.

Evidence of this assertion?

[nen-walks.livejournal.com]

a whopping 8% of couples who have anal sex get pregnant from that way alone a year.

What's the MLA citation for one's own ass?

Unless by "anal sex" you mean "anal sex which ends by the man withdrawing and ejaculating near the woman's vagina," I highly doubt your little "statistic."

I dare you to explain how anal sex alone can lead to pregnancy. Last I checked the anus leads to no reproductive organs.


Are you getting your "sexology degree" from a cereal box?

[ceejayoz.livejournal.com]

What's the MLA citation for one's own ass?

sena7. Stuff I Made Up, LiveJournal:My Ass Publishing, 2005.

[levi.livejournal.com]

*dies*

[ladyinred667.livejournal.com]

bwahahaha!

[square-pancake.livejournal.com]

Thus, in response to your public comment, let me say that you are a complete and total moron. Additionally, based on your clear social skills I would not be surprised if your only experience in sex comes from your books instead of actual human interactions. Finally I would commend the OP for admitting that she has issues with anxiety and is taking active steps to reduce that anxiety.

[summer-breeze14.livejournal.com]

Finally I would commend the OP for admitting that she has issues with anxiety and is taking active steps to reduce that anxiety.

Thank you (-;

[ladyartemisa.livejournal.com]

If you are a sexology major I would suggest going into another field because you are obviously learning nothing from the books that you are reading.

[nzgoddess.livejournal.com]

re: is it possible to get pregnant without sexual penetration?


yes it is love, but given your description of where he touched you, id say its pretty unlikely that you are .. stress can very easily effect a womans cycle .. and while im no expert, id say this is the most likely cause of the delay .. especially if you are having all your usual pre-period symptoms ..

best of luck ..

[viva-la-blondee.livejournal.com]

Those suckers can swim like crazy. So to answer your question, yes you can get pregnent without intercourse.

However, I think it is very unlikely where he touched you and also the fact that it was not full blown cumming on his part.

The sperm cant survive outside of the body

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

They can, but only for a few hours in the right heat.

[viva-la-blondee.livejournal.com]

Really? I thought it had to be body to body contact.

I stand corrected.

[skeptictank.livejournal.com]

As I said before, the temperature has to be just right for it to live that long, so it can survive close to cavity openings & whatnot. Not so much like... on your hand or whatever.

[arbore.livejournal.com]

It is only possible if it gets into the vulva, and even so, there's still not MUCH of a chance, but it's still there. I've been in the same position as you before, and really there's nothing to be scared of. The lack of your period is 95% most likely you just stressing over this :]. Before I got on birth control, the lateness of my period would be 10-15 days from anxiety.