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[burnished.livejournal.com]

I have been reading this community for some time, I.... am a closet reader, I only today made a journal, but I have been reading for quite some time.

I have really got myself in a pickle this time though... and had no one else to turn to, so I thought perhaps someone here could help me out.

The other morning, my boyfriend and I had sex, and when he pulled out... the condom.. simply wasnt there. I was soo embarrassed, and scared. We searched my room, and ... its no where to find.
I belive it is inside of me, but we checked... uncomfortably so.
I dont know what to do, I am so afraid, I dont have medical insurance, or the money for a doctor. This seems like this may not be that uncommon of an incident, but i really have no idea how to handle this.
Please, please help.

Comments

[ex-graspingb368.livejournal.com]

Well, I dunno what to tell you, except you probably really do need someone with the right, uh, tools (speculum, so they can really check) look inside of you to make sure it's not there...is there a Planned Parenthood near you? They have a sliding payment scale for people in your situation.
And I don't know what your personal beliefs are, but if you don't want to risk pregnancy, you might want to ask them about the morning after pill, but that has to be taken within 72 hours of the incident. Like I said, I don't know if you would mind being pregnant, or what your beliefs are even if you would mind, it's just a thought.
But you probably really should get that checked out somehow.

[wyliekat.livejournal.com]

There are WAY more embarassing things to have happen than to lose a condom. They aren't going to look at you like you're a mutant. But you can't leave it there. Did you notice any discharge at all? Usually things like that won't stay up there - they'll just work themselves out. Either way, if that hasn't happened, you need to see a doctor.

[weetanya.livejournal.com]

Planned Parenthood is free, and they do all the checking for you (tests, exams, the whole bit).

[urania.livejournal.com]

... i assume you've checked thoroughly... but it's worth it to keep trying, there's nowhere else to go (assuming you're sure he remembered to put it on in the first place)... if you relax and do a methodical search with a couple of fingers, take your time, and try and search every area and all the folds of skin in there it might save you an exam (tho you should still check about the pills if need be)... good luck!

Condoms are an evil thing, aren't they??

[lunahalo.livejournal.com]

Ok, first off, stop panicking. Now that you're nice and calm, I hope, do me a favour and go look in the phone book for a clinic that has a sliding scale fee. That means, in case you don't know already, and if you do, sorry for relaying something you already know!!, that if you're broke, you don't pay. If you have $20/month coming in, a small % of that will be required to pay. You get the idea, I'm sure. :-)

*HUGZ* Don't worry, hun, it'll all work out. If necessary, go to the local ER, and they'll examine you. Chances are, you won't be charged very much. Is there a Planned Parenthood nearby?? I know they don't charge much....

Just a few thoughts...

Oh, and STAY CALM!!!

lunahalo

[lil-pixi.livejournal.com]

Planned Parenthood. Thats all I have to say. They cost very little (to nothing at all), are professionals, and are there for things like this. Just go ASAP though because you could get an infection which would cost a lot more. Plus ask about other options of birth control /STD protection there. I'm sure they could help you out so this won't happen again. Hope everything works out ok!!!

[gaijina.livejournal.com]

A friend had a similar problem-- 'cept the damn thing broke, and she would periodically give painful "birth" to aged condom chunks. Was as pleasant as it sounds. I tell you this so that you see you are not alone, but also to reassure you that a speculum and a $5 fee from Planned Parenthood are *much* less painful. Good luck and I hope things turn out okay!!

Valley of the Lost Condom

[00goddess.livejournal.com]

It is most definitel;y inside you.

What you can do:

go in the bathroom, and get in a squatting position on the floor. Then, start pushing with your vaginal muscles, like you are trying to pee. This should work the condom out if you can't find it with your fingers.

Are you sure he put it on to begin with?