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[wehadlove.livejournal.com]

Hey everyone. I'm new here, 17 years old, and I'm kind of freaked out so I needed to talk to some other girls about this.

I'm having some period troubles. It all started in August, when my cycle was 38 days long. I'm usually between 30-31 days. I attribute the lateness to me breaking up with my boyfriend and the fact that I left for a cruise on the day I got my period. Those things make sense to me. There's no way I could be pregnant because I'm a virgin.

This month, if I was to stay on my 38 day cycle, I would've been due on Monday. However, I have been kind of freaking out about it, so much so that I took a pregnancy test on Tuesday because I was really freaked out. I didn't know if my boyfriend had semen on his hands or anything while he was down there. Anyway, long story short, I'm kind of a worry-wort. The test was negative.

The thing is, I still haven't got my period. I feel symptoms of PMS, like mood swings and stuff, but I still don't have it. I'm incredibly frustrated and freaked out. Could it be this late because I'm so stressed about it? Also, last Monday (the 19th) my boyfriend put me through a lot of emotional stress because he's kind of depressed and was speaking of killing himself, etc. I cried for a while and was so freaked out all day that I didn't know what to with myself. (He's since went to a counselor - he's getting help.) Could that have something to do with the lateness?

I'm sorry if this question seems repetitive or stupid, I just don't know what to think. Any advice or knowledge you can give would be really, really appreciated.

Comments

[erinmdmd.livejournal.com]

You have not had vaginal intercourse and the chances of you being pregnant are so low that you should not worry about them at all.

Menstrual cycles do things like this. I'd assume you also began school this month, waking up earlier and being busy after a semi-relaxing summer. Its also getting colder outside and the weather is changing to autumn in a lot of areas- thats a common culprit of cycle changes.

Do you keep track of your cycles? 38 dyas is not super long. In a natural (not hormonally regulated period) some women find that they will skip cycles or have strangely long (for them) cycles- all normal, unless you begin to miss a lot of cycles. At that point, it is worth mentioning it to you doctor.

You are normal and seem healthy. Your body knows what it is doing. Just relax.

[wehadlove.livejournal.com]

I did start school this month, which I was thinking may play a factor also, and yes, it's getting much cooler here as well. I guess I just need to wait it out. And yeah, I do keep track of my cycles. Usually they're 30-31 days, but the one in August was 38 days. I'm now on day 43 - it just seems like such a long time.

Thanks for the advice and info. I am probably getting myself far too worked up, but I'm just tired of playing the waiting game.

[crassy.livejournal.com]

It took me until the age of 25 to have a regular cycle. As the above poster said, there are a lot of circumstances which would cause your period to be late, but since you've not had sex, pregnancy would not be one of them. You are still young and your body is still changing. You will probably find that your cycles vary according to time of year, stress levels etc. If you have been more active lately, this also may contribute to your usual cycle being thrown off course.

[wehadlove.livejournal.com]

My age seems to be the major factor in this, according to my mom. I guess I've been more active, considering I sat around all Summer and am now up and ready for school everyday, climbing stairs and running from class to class, etc. Thank you for the input.

[jaipur.livejournal.com]

It's also possible (for some of us) to skip a period completely, and have the occasional 56-day cycle. Don't worry! If there's no chance you can be pregnant, and you're not having nasty cramps or something, just being late's no biggie.

(But good luck with the boyfriend situation! That sounds awful!)

[carifairy.livejournal.com]

Have you considered possibly seeing a gynecologist? Perhaps seeign a clinician may help you, especially if you want more predictable periods.

[zombiefaerie.livejournal.com]

I missed my period one time (when I was 17) completely for the whole month, it wasn't late, it just didn't come, because I was excited for Christmas.
If that is an indication on how emotion can screw up your cycle.