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[lucifersamekh.livejournal.com]

I can't find any clear information on this.. but I'm planning on losing my virginity within the next two weeks and my period is scheduled to start on saturday. When is the best time to have sex during the menstrual cycle to avoid pregnancy? We're using protection but I'm not on birth control. I also heard that flow can be delayed after sex? thanks! I'm a bit paranoid so i want to take every precaution because I know close to nothing on this subject. I'm pretty against having kids in general so I want to do everything possible to prevent it before I can get my tubes tied.

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[crassy.livejournal.com]

Best time for what exactly? If it is pregnancy you are worried about, use birth control. If there is some other reason...anytime is good for sex, even if you are celebrating non-pregnancy.

[hexeengel.livejournal.com]

anytime is good for sex, even if you are celebrating non-pregnancy.

Haha! That's great, agreed 110%! :-D

[hexeengel.livejournal.com]

There isn't a "best time," if you're talking about avoiding pregnancy, because it's not currently known when the ovum is expelled. Pregnancy is less likely while you're bleeding, but still not impossible. "Every precation" in this case would mean protection, at least a condom for him (and too give that an added boost, one with a spermicidal lubricant), and more for you if you feel you need it (female condom, extra spermacide, etc.).

If you're talking about comfort level as far as cramping, then that's something only you can determine. But I will say that intercourse often does relieve cramps.

If you're referring to flow, again, that's something only you know. Many women, though, are heavy for a the first couple days, then lighter towards the end of their period.

[boigrrrlwonder.livejournal.com]

There isn't a "best time," if you're talking about avoiding pregnancy, because it's not currently known when the ovum is expelled. Pregnancy is less likely while you're bleeding, but still not impossible. "Every precation" in this case would mean protection, at least a condom for him (and too give that an added boost, one with a spermicidal lubricant), and more for you if you feel you need it (female condom, extra spermacide, etc.).

What I'd like to say is please don't wear a female condom with a male condom. It does not add additional protection. The friction it creates makes the condoms more likely to break, in addition to vastly limiting sensation.

(If the individual is charting the individual's cycle, it is possible to know when it is safe to have sex without using any barrier or chemical form of birth control. However, that is a skill that takes months to perfect so wouldn't help the poster.)

[lucifersamekh.livejournal.com]

yeah, I know about the two condom thing. I was actually asking about what you've mentioned because I'm on a really constant cycle, so is there any way to backtrack and chart?

[boigrrrlwonder.livejournal.com]

there is no way to back chart. Odds are by now you've made your decision, and if you're interested, I really recommend Taking Charge of Your Fertility...I don't remember the author's name. But, no. There isn't. Sorry.

[bellabrigida.livejournal.com]

Please, please, use protection one way or another.

[lucifersamekh.livejournal.com]

definitely. wouldn't do it without it. maybe I should mentiont hat in my post for good measure.

[briarwood.livejournal.com]

There are websites that can help you track your cycle and approximately predict when you'll ovulate, but you need to do that over time (check the community memories for links).

Otherwise the information you're looking for is you're least likely to be fertile for about seven days after your period begins. But please don't rely on that because that's a statistical average and you are a unique person not a statistic.

Women who rely on the rhythm method with no other form of protection get pregnant. Never even consider using rhythm unless you've tracked your cycle for at least a year (and by that I mean checking your temperature or using urine tests, not just keeping a menstruation calendar). Rhythm is a good method to use if you're trying to get prenant; it's not so reliable for the reverse.

So use protection. Use birth control - there are more options out there than the Pill. Here in the UK can get a diaphragm (free) from your local family planning clinic or GP; I don't know where you live but find out what choices are available to you.

Yes, it's possible for your period to be late after you lose your virginity. It happens because your cycle can be affected by your emotions, so if you're stressed about maybe being pregnant, or dizzy in love and high on life, you might find you become a bit less regular than you're used to.

[stripling.livejournal.com]

the rhythm method is highly outdated. The FAM method is safer and more up to date. check it out here (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0060937645/qid=1129300548/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/102-1915074-2934511?v=glance&s=books&n=507846).

[briarwood.livejournal.com]

By "rhythm method" I mean anything that depends on knowing or predicting when you will ovulate and avoiding sex at that time.

Regardless of how accurate the prediction method, the human body is not a pendulum and depending on that as birth control is a sure way to get pregnant.

[stripling.livejournal.com]

rhythm was a specific method using bogus equations to guess when to have sex.

You might want to read up on more info before completely brushing off FAM. I'm a praticer, and have never been pregnant.

[lileprechaun.livejournal.com]

Rhythm is a good method to use if you're trying to get pregnant; it's not so reliable for the reverse.

It's not even that reliable for trying to achieve pregnancy. And I agree with the commenter below about reading up on FAM because based on what you've written, I don't think you have a clear idea on how it works. FAM is not the same as the Rhythm Method. (http://www.ovusoft.com/library/myths.asp#19); It is scientifically backed and it doesn't involve prediction of any sort. What is does involve is observing the signs your body gives you on a day to day basis and using said signs to determine how fertile you are. Many women use this method to avoid pregnancy and it is a much more reliable way to achieve pregnancy that the rhythm method.

[jennifer0246.livejournal.com]

kudos for trying to educate yourself! condoms are great protection against both pregnancy and STIs, and should always be used. They're also pretty resilient little buggers, so as long as you're using them correctly (see http://www.teenwire.com/portal/portal-050119-condom.html to find out how to do that), use lube, and you're good to go! also note, if you have a condom accident (break/split), you can see EC - emergency contraception - from a clinic/doctor up to 5 days after the incident, and it will delay ovulation to prevent pregnancy.

good luck!

[arwen-ravena.livejournal.com]

I agree that there isn't a "best time" & that protection should be used. I also wanted to point out that I have had 3 gyns tell me (when I was about 19) that they would not sterilize me until I reached the age of 25 b/c I had no kids already & by then I may have changed my mind about reproducing. I did change my mind by then, not to say that you will or anything, so I'm glad idn;t do it. Just letting you know to prepare for an answer like that if you're younger than 25.