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so...


This Friday, my boyfriend jacked off, and waited about 30 seconds, and then fingered me.

I've only gotten my period twice before- May of 2005, for one day, and September 2005, for one week, but that was it. I haven't gotten it since then.

my question is, is it possible that I could get pregnant? I'm really worried, and I don't know what to do. :/

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[darkenedminds.livejournal.com]

If there was semen on his hands, yes.

Any reason why your period is so irregular? If you're older than 16 or so you should probably see a doctor.

[twisted888.livejournal.com]

Have you looked into why, at 17, you have only had two periods?

[http://users.livejournal.com/dothedramatic-/]

I'm not 17, I'm 15, this is just my friends livejournal and I'm posting on it because I don't have one.

[stripling.livejournal.com]

there's a community called amipregnant which can help you more than this one.

[careless-lovex.livejournal.com]

probably not.
i mean yeah, theres a slight chance but if he had his jizz all over his hands, instinct says to wipe it off in the first place.
and theres such a small chance of you being pregnant bc you dont get your period that much so youre not exactly the most fertile field on the farm. you probably werent ovulating and if it was on his hands there probably wasnt enough to even make it to your uterus.
so yea, the chances are there but veryyyyyyyy small.
i was irregular till i was like 17.5, its completely normal.
doctors wouldnt even put you on the pill bc youre so young so dont freak out about the period situation.

[shell-marie.livejournal.com]

doctors WOULD put her on the pill if she asked. i started when i was 15.

[zinnea.livejournal.com]

Sperm dies the instant it dries. Your risk of pregnancy is very very low here.

Now would be a good time to look into your birth control options, though, especially considering your unusual cycle. If you've only got your period twice at age 15, talking to a doctor about that would be a very, very good idea. It's not unusual for young women to be irregular but your case seems exceptional. It could be normal for you, but do get checked out.

[scarletazalea.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry that you're having a pregancy scare. So I send you lots of calming thoughts your way during a time when I'm sure you're feeling a bit stressed and panicky. The other thing is I send lots of information, as well as more a few of my opinions, because I'm one of those sorts who is calmed now by lots of research and because well, I'm a bit bossy.

I agree with comments that, while there is a very low possibilitiy, it is not likely. With an irregular cycle, it seems you're more likely to have "oh, my god, am I pregnant?" scares, but every woman I know who has sex with men has these scares. Some of it is about things based in reality, like the condom broke, and some of it is about feeling guilty about going after sexual pleasure- there is a way in which being "pregnant" in our minds during these scares is about getting punished.

It might not be comfortable to think about, but your fears also could be a sign that you need/want to slow down. I encourage you to think about all this. Not because I think you should or shouldn't have sex, but because I think sex is much better the clearer we get about how we feel about it and whether we feel ready for sex with someone (this is true at for me at 33 years old after years of experience, not just for you at 15.)

The other issue to think about is the prevention of sexually transmitted infections. If there was a chance that live sperm got you pregnant, there is also a chance that STI's could be transmitted. I don't think you need to be paranoid about that either, but I think it is important to do some reading and decide which risks you are willing to take both in terms of pregnancy and STI's, how you want to protect yourself and what you don't want to do (at this point) before you and your boyfriend get to the wonderful but sometimes brains not fully engaged to make rational decisions place of doing even more fabulous exploring.

Good luck.

Some places to do research:
Scarleteen, sex education for the real world: http://www.scarleteen.com/

Our Bodies, Our Selves-http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/default.asp
They publish books on women's health/sexuality. They also have an edition for teens I think.

Planned Parenthood (regardless on your stance on abortion, Planned Parenthood is a great resource for women's health).
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/;jsessionid=780041F308F39994216EE799D14C39DE

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thankyou so much

[scarletazalea.livejournal.com]

You're welcome. Take care of yourself. And good luck with everything. I send good wishes your way. And remind you that despite all our opinions that the folks here have shared, and it is a good thing that they've shared those opinions, I remind you that it is your body and your sexuality and your life. None of the rest of us (myself included) know what's best for you. I'm rooting for you to make the decisons that make you happy in wonderful, ethical, sane ways. Enjoy!

[migraine.livejournal.com]

I was under the impression, and I could very well be wrong, the sperm dies when it hits open air.

[silvertipwings.livejournal.com]

Chances are very low. Very, very low. That said, I think you're pretty (way) young to be doing this sort of thing but it's great you didn't have sex! My views aside, you *do* need to educate yourself before doing more of this stuff- I'm assuming you haven't hit sex ed in HS or you're in one of those places where they don't have it or make it useless.