My body hates me.

[wickedconcubine.livejournal.com]

So, in the last three months, my boyfriend and I have had sex twice that I can even remember... It may have been longer than that.

We only get to spend weekends together because of conflicting schedules, so generally we try to make the best of it.

First there was the 5-6 weeks where he was suffering from a sinus cold complete with constant sinus headache... and the rare times his head wasn't aching, I was having a migraine...
Then I had both bronchitis and the flu and was "please kill me now" sick for about a week, with the requisite cough and hacking up of icky things for the next couple of weeks
Then he caught the Flu I'd finally gotten rid of...
Then I was having migraines again...
Then he had food poisoning...
Then insomnia hit him and on the nights I wasn't there he was only sleeping 3-4 hours.. and catching up on lost sleep because he sleeps better when I'm there...
so he was always too tired and fell asleep almost immediately on going to bed
Then finally... I guess its closer to 4 months if not a bit more...
I, of course, being the one with way more of a sex drive (isn't that backwards, isn't it the girl who's supposed to be interested only about a quarter of the time he is? *pout*) start to wonder what's wrong...
So I get depressed and start thinking that he isn't attracted anymore...
and start trying to decide whether loving him as much as I do is enough to make up for the lack of sex...
Finally FINALLY!!! Saturday night we go to bed and he falls asleep immediately, and I lay there for a while, and I guess I start crying because I just can't stop thinking about it all... wondering if its an excuse "Not tonight I don't feel well, I have a headache" etc... so I start crying... and he wakes up... and I explain what's wrong... and he apologizes and promises it really is that we've been sick or similar things... that he's still attracted and thinks I'm sexy and all...
And he promises that Sunday he won't be headachy or too tired... and he doesnt' make promises lightly...
So we cuddle up and fall asleep again...

And Sunday when I wake up my period has started... not only that, its extremely heavy
My body hates me... and the feeling is mutual
*mutter* Frustrating as hell

And even if it does decide to stop by this weekend... I have to work all weekend so we won't be spending much time together, I may not even stay at his place

... All of which reminds me of another topic... Of those who are on the pill... what have you found works the best for regulating the cycle?

rash from pads

[toni-molko.livejournal.com]

I’m wondering if anyone here can help me

For a while now I’ve had a horrible itchy rash around my vagina. I used to get it (although with less of an obvious rash, just a lot of itching) around the end of my period for a few days, but slowly the amount of time I would have it for increased until for the past few months it’s been constant even between my periods and flared up terribly. The doctor suggested that it came from wearing pads, because of the timing of it, and that it’s just become so inflamed now that it won’t go away without treatment. So she prescribed me some corticosteroid cream…but the thing is this can only treat the inflammation in the short term – it won’t actually go away completely unless you get rid of the cause.
So this is where I was hoping someone might have some ideas.
I do sometimes wear tampons, but I find them uncomfortable unless my period is very heavy, and since I’m on the pill my periods are much lighter than they used to be, so tampons are generally out. Also, I’ve been skipping my periods with the pills to avoid having to use pads, partly because of the general irritation, even when I didn’t know they were causing the rash, but this has put me in an even more difficult position, giving me a kind of never-ending period for the past few weeks. There are other uncontrollable factors such as hot weather causing general sweating and chafing pretty much everywhere. I’ve heard about cloth pads, but I don’t know anything about them, how to get them, how expensive they are or anything. Do people think they would help if I could get hold of them? I don’t see them in supermarkets, nor do I see any sort of ‘non-allergenic’ pad, but I can’t afford to buy expensive pads anyway (another reason why I skip my period so often).
Does anyone have any other sort of remedy?

(no subject)

[sparkliediamond.livejournal.com]

This is weird...according to cyclespage.com, my period has gone from a 35 day cycle to a 33 to 32 to 30...its not going to get any shorter is it??

(no subject)

[logic-error.livejournal.com]

I have a question that's been burning me for a while, and it's probably pretty stupid, but there was nothing relating to it in the memories or recent entries and I can't find any good information about it, so here goes.

Is there a day of your cycle where you can have sex and be significantly less likely to get pregnant? (Assuming you use no methods of birth control. No pill, no condoms, no nothing, just completely natural sex).

I'm curious because I've been playing around on mymonthlycycles.com and they have a 'fertility calculator' that takes the history of your cycle and predicts the days that you are fertile. Well, assuming it's accurate, on the days that the calculator shows nothing does that mean you have a very low chance of getting pregnant?

I know there's always a chance of getting pregnant no matter what. I just want to know if there's a time of the cycle where the chances are significantly lower.

(no subject)

[nera-fiore.livejournal.com]

A question about...well, I don't know what exactly to call it, but I have a question.

( sudden strangeness )