No intercourse, but still experiencing a pregnancy scare.

[lleeeesshhhh.livejournal.com]

This may sound really ridiculous, but it's been giving me a lot of grief so it sounded appropriate to ask.

I am going to a gynecologist in a couple days, but it seems to be taking its sweet time getting here.


My period was seven days late. When it arrived it lasted the usual seven days but was brown a lot of the time and the texture/scent seemed different. (sorry if I'm being gross) Prior to this I had started having panic attacks about being pregnant. I'm not sure where they came from but they always resulted in nausea that I quickly wanted to blame on morning sickness.

I haven't had much of an appetite either, I'll feel starving but when food is actually near me I do not want it. I've been told by various people that this is all caused by stress, but it still worries me..and isn't much fun. :(

Yesterday I felt a ton of slippery discharge fall out of me and soak my underwear. I've been off of my period (if it was one) for about a week now and I'm not sure if I should be ovulating or anything, but I do know that this is also a sign of pregnancy.

I'm still having large ammounts of discharge, and when they dry they're always really chalky and white.

Also, I'm not sure if it is just me being paranoid, but I feel that my stomach looks different, like there's a slight bump to the part below my belly button.

I haven't been having intercourse. My boyfriend and I do give eachother oral though and have lounged around (and slept) naked together before.

I know that it's not possible to get pregnant from oral, but I'm still afraid that maybe I got his semen on me somehow without noticing? I really can't recall an event if it does exist, but I've been reading a lot of stuff over the last couple of weeks, and I'm pretty certain that anything is possible.

The boyfriend is at work today so I'm going to wait until he is off tomorrow to take a test. I've been putting him through a lot of stress with this, so I think it would be right for him to be there when I take it. And I could really used the moral support too. :( I've never had to take a pregnancy test before and I've chickened out atleast ten times over this situation. Somehow, I feel like just taking one automatically makes me pregnant.

I know that this was really long winded, and I apologize. But if anybody has any advice or opinions and can be kind about it, I would really appreciate it. I really don't think I can handle being pregnant at this time, especially when I haven't even had sex yet. I want to believe it's not possible, but it seems like I'm experiencing all of the symptoms.

Is it really possible to get "sperminated" without even knowing about it?

Could there be any different cause for all of this?

Comments

[lacrimose.livejournal.com]

Unless he came on his hand and fingered you, or came on or around your vagina and it got into you some how I can't think of another way it would have happened. If you are pregnant however, I'd like to rub a few lotto tickets on your head because you would be the queen of impossibilities.

Yesterday I felt a ton of slippery discharge fall out of me and soak my underwear.

Have you been sick at all? I get more discharge like this when I'm under the weather.

there's a slight bump to the part below my belly button.

You're just being paranoid.

[herongrrrl.livejournal.com]

Yes, it is *possible* to get pregnant without intercourse, but as the previous comment mentioned it would have to be under some pretty specific circumstances and you would have to have been producing an awful lot of fertile cervical fluid to wick those little swimmers up where they could do the job.

It is true, all the symptoms you mention could be caused by stress. Stress can delay a period (usually by delaying ovulation, so if you had something particularly stressful happen--illness, travel, bad news, school/job stuff, whatever during the first part of your last cycle that is a likely culprit). It is also possible that your last period was the result of an anovulatory cycle (that is, you didn't ovulate at all), and the bleeding was "breakthrough bleeding" that happens with those and may have a different character to it than a regular period. That would also explain the slippery discharge you experienced after your period--that can definitely be a sign of ovulation, or that your body is trying to ovulate but hasn't yet (sometimes a thyroid condition will make that happen, and it would be a good thing to check with your doctor).

YMMV, of course, but I would think taking a test would make you feel a lot better because you would know for sure one way or the other. Home pregnancy tests are very reliable, and would accurately tell you one way or another at this point. The results of the test--which in all probability will be negative--will be an important piece of info for you to give your gyn when you see her/him to help figure out why things haven't been quite normal for you lately.

Good luck!

[uozlulu.livejournal.com]

I have a whitish discharge after ovulation and my abodomen swells before I start my period every single month, so to me that part sounds normal. If you are worried about pregnancy, take a test. As the other two posters mentioned, it's possible.

[sioneva.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, but with the contact the OP described, it is absolutely *not* possible that she is pregnant. Oral sex does not equal pregnancy, nor does mutual masturbation, fingering, etc. unless direct, immediate contact occurred that could have transferred a significant amount of live semen *into* her vagina. Sleeping naked next to each other cannot cause pregnancy!

If it makes the OP feel better to take a test, she can, but as described there is no possible way that the OP can be pregnant.

[humanordancers.livejournal.com]

if he jacked off while she was sleeping, and came near enough to her vagina, even if was just on her labia, those suckers can swim.

[sioneva.livejournal.com]

I'm assuming you're being facetious?

If not, I'd like to see some evidence where that has *ever* happened. Ever. And even then, I probably won't believe you, because the combination of factors needed for sperm ejaculated OUTSIDE the vagina to get from thigh/labia/whatever INTO the vagina of someone who was sleeping (hello lubrication?!), UP to the cervix and then to an egg is so mindblowingly chancy as to be pretty much impossible.

In any case, if he'd done that and they were having a pregnancy scare, unless he's a real bastard, he'd have told her...and then she'd have bigger problems than some mystical possibility of pregnancy, quite frankly.

But let's ask the OP: OP, were you pregnant?

[cork118.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry you're experiencing so much anxiety. It sounds like you're going through a lot right now.

Try to keep in mind that symptoms of pregnancy don't all show up at once like this. It seems to be physiologically impossible for you to be pregnant, and it would be way, WAY too early for there to be any kind of baby bump or anything like that. Babies take nine months to develop, and it's usually at least three or four months (I think) before women start showing in the belly area. For the first month or so, fetuses are smaller than your finger, so there'd be no bump.

Because you're feeling so stressed, that could be the explanation for your unusual body symptoms. Stress can cause all sorts of things to happen. It can delay your period, make your period look different, lead to physiological symptoms like water retention and bloating, and all kinds of other stuff.

You are NOT pregnant. Try to take some deep breaths, relax, take a bubble bath, work out, eat chocolate, talk to a friend... do whatever you need to do to destress a little. Good luck, and let me know if there's anything I can do to help you out.

[healthnut22.livejournal.com]

Some people have "phantom" pregnancy signs just out of sheer anxiety. In other words, they actually get all the symptoms of pregnancy, but it originated in high levels of panic over it. Does it worry you that you and the boyfriend sleep naked, etc? Do you think about it all the time?

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant without intercourse. It has happened in the history of the world. However, I agree from your accounts that it doesn't sound any more likely to me than it does to you. But it could have happened.

Any chance anything happened while the two of you were sleeping, etc? That's all I can think of.

Good luck waiting until you see the gyno. I hope your fears and curiosity are resolved.

I agree that the part about you thinking there is a bump on your tummy seems like paranoia, and makes me wonder if the whole thing is.

Have peace~

[jennifer19.livejournal.com]

you're not pregnant. you're stressed and by continuing to freak yourself out about being pregnant you're making it worse. If a test will make you feel better, take one. When I've had pregnancy scares and been late because of stress (the stress of the pregnancy scare continued to make things later...) i've taken a pregnancy test and gotten my period that day because the relief of not being pregnant relieved a bunch of stress.

[meridae.livejournal.com]

I just want to say . . well a couple of things really. First of all, I don't think you're silly for making this post and asking what you did - the only way to learn things is to *ask* and sometimes it's really brave to do that.

Secondly, I don't think there's much if any chance you could be pregnant if you haven't had unprotected intercourse. There's a possibility that it could happen if your boyfriend ejaculated on to his (or your!) hand and then put his fingers into your vagina. There's also a possibility that it could happen if he put his penis into your vagina and then pulled out without ejaculating because precome has sperm in it too. I think any other way (him coming on your vulva for instance) really has little to know chance of getting you pregnant - sperm just can't swim that well.

That said, it's obvious you're having real symptoms of *something*. I agree with the other posters that it's most likely anxiety - you're so anxious about this that your body could be creating symptoms for you to worry about. OR - the symptoms could be something that you need to go and see your doctor/gynaecologist about. What I would do is, if you can - have a pregnancy test done. Because that way you know for sure you're not pregnant and can stop fretting about it.

Secondly - have you had a check up recently? You could go to your doctor, tell him/her your symptoms and then know for certain that what's happening is eithr completely normal or whether it's something that needs looking at more (everything sounds normal to me, but I'm not a doctor). That way you'll know what's normal and right for *your* body. The other thing you could do is discuss options for contraception - I know you're not having intercourse now, but it never hurts to have all the information, and maybe start taking the pill if that's the option you choose - for one thing, it should decrease your worries about getting pregnant accidentally, and for another, it would mean if you and bf did spontenously decide to have sex one day (you know, when the moon is right and everything is all romantic ::grins::) then you're already protected.

::hugs for asking::

[lleeeesshhhh.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much to everyone for answering and being amazing. :) You have all been very helpful and informative and treated my question with real concern. I did not actually get to test today, but I get to see the gyno tomorrow so I'm excited to get all of this cleared up, ask a ton of questions, and hopefully work on some strategies for not panicking so much over everything.