question for the group

[snookumpie.livejournal.com]

sex during menstruation:

ok or no-go?

why or why not?

Comments

[jenx.livejournal.com]

I enjoy it, as I'm more sensitive and it helps cramps - but one of my partners doesn't enjoy it for the visual of the bleeding, he's worried he's hurting me.

[snookumpie.livejournal.com]

makes sense to me. my ex HATES the sight of blood and refused to have sex at any point during my bleeding. that really bothered me because of the 'dirty' association.

Either/Or

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

I don't really like the term bi, but I guess it fits in that I'm into persons of both genders. This is relevant here.

Anyhow, I'm willing to have sex with a long-term partner while I/she is bleeding because it's just another fluid and not much messier than regular sex, just put a towel down on the bed under yourself.

On the other hand, it is someone's blood. Blood is the prime carrier for a million diseases both sexually transmitted and otherwise, so you're exposing yourself to a world of risk if you contact someone's blood, and menstrual blood counts. Accordingly, I wouldn't be willing to have casual sex with a partner who was bleeding, and would hope that a casual partner wouldn't want to contact my blood either.

Sure, you can use barriers to prevent contact, but as any woman knows, if you sit down without a blood restraint device, you're going to make a mess pretty soon. Even if you're using gloves or condoms, there is still going to be blood that contacts the skin outside of the barrier, and that's a risk.

So, all in all, I'm down with bloody sex with someone I'm serious about and have been with for a while and trust isn't going to infect me, but I'm not into contact with someone's blood of any kind if it's casual.

Re: Either/Or

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

*nod*

Thus my comments. I'd have to be fluid bonded.

[brandyshea.livejournal.com]

I usually don't until near the end of my period, even though my boyfriend doesn't care. I just don't like making a mess. I always use tampons, can't stand pads. I just hate knowing there's blood oozing out and it's getting all over the place.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

Sex during menstruation works if:
1. I am fluid bonded with my partner and
2. My vulva isn't sore. (It feels bruised one or two days of my period)or
3. My vulva isn't part of it. (Not all sex is intercourse. I don't mind sex involving other parts of my body, or just having oral or manual sex with my partner, when my vulva's sore.)

#1 is required. A condom isn't enough, for me, to share something that involves blood.

But provided I have #1 and either #2 or #3, then sure! It's easy enough to keep a towel underneath, and to wash up with a warm wash cloth or a shower afterwards.

[scottobear.livejournal.com]

I'm for it... my current partner is generally more aroused during that time, and as long as it's clean, why not?

[the-marionette.livejournal.com]

I have issues with it. Generally my vulva swells and becomes sore during the heavier days. I also find that sex causes more blood flow causing more a lot more bleeding. I don't like to have sex until a day after my period has completely stopped. If I have sex during the nasty brown stage, the blood will become red again. I just plain find it nasty actually. I get particularly skeeved out when my partner goes on about how he doesn't mind performing oral sex on me while I'm menstruating. *shudder*

[missjessyjessy.livejournal.com]

I've done it once.....but only as it was trailing off ie light light flow......it was alright

[oomi.livejournal.com]

i really enjoy this.......it is such a turn on for me, when a male doesn't even flinch about the bleeding.......

[bandraoi.livejournal.com]

I totally agree... for me, sex is extra primal during this time, plus I'm hornier and it helps cramps. Of course, unlike my prior boyfriends, my hubby is squeamish and has a problem with this...which has caused me to unwillingly get saddled with that 'dirty' association. It has been a sore point (no pun intended) in our marriage thus far.

[snookumpie.livejournal.com]

yeah, that i understand and it's becoming a 'thing' between us that's getting worse. i don't like being considered 'dirty' under ANY circumstances, especially something this funamentally human.

Yay!

[bonniebon.livejournal.com]

Ii like it :) my yoni feels different at that time so the sensation/pleasure is a little different, I find that the my libido comes back from it's PMS nose-dive too so I'm usually quite horny. My boyfriend doesn't mind the blood, though we put a towel down just in case I leak anywhere. According to my him though while menstruating my yoni seems kind of rough inside, I have no idea why, it has actually made him sore a couple of times!
Despite this though he's usually up for it, he has a high libido and isn't really able to say no LOL

[purplepants.livejournal.com]

I prefer no sex when I'm bleeding. I'm usually not feeling up to snuff and I'm not a big fan of blood coming out of me when I'm being intimate. And I'm kind of squeamish anyways.

[kaypoisson.livejournal.com]

i think i would have sex during my period if i wanted...i masterbate in the shower sometimes when im on it and it feels cool...it like, feels spiffy and different than having fun when im not on it. but i dunno, i've never even had sex before at all (only 15) so yeah......but i would do it, totally. seems nifty and fun.

[parentingtheriot]

on days one and two: no, i feel too gushy and sensitive and crampy.
on days three through six: if he doesn't mind, i don't either; i'm happy to grab a towel.

[zitronenhai.livejournal.com]

I have no problem with it. I have a black towel on hand for just such occasions. Besides, a good orgasm does relieve cramps, if only temporarily.

[ex-ending606.livejournal.com]

I say no, my boyfriend says yes. Oddly enough. I don't know, I'm just embarrassed of the natural scent my body gives off when I'm menstruating- is that weird?
He's tried to be really supportive about it, telling me that if it's such a big deal to me we can turn off the lights & put a massive towel underneath us.. but.. eeghh... too many reservations. Besides, I'd feel inhibited during lovemaking, since he has not yet earned his 'red wings' and I wouldn't want to shock him. heh. On the other hand, there's a first time for everything..

[amylynn.livejournal.com]

I don't see anything wrong with it. I mean -- why not? but personally I can't, at least not traditional heterosexual intercourse type sex. It feels sorta bruised up near my cervix when I'm bleeding... (and yes, I know, that's not a good sign and I really do need to go to the gyno ::sigh:: )

[barelybalancing.livejournal.com]

last night my boyfriend and I had a huge talk about all the things we wanted to try, and he came over today and we were going to make love, but my mom was right next door and that got me squemish cos i don't want her to walk in accidentally. we had a towel and everything and have done it before and he's totally okay with the blood.

i agree about the primal thing...the blood helps with lubrication and feels great, i wish we just had more privacy. so later we're going to have a nice lil phone convo *g*

-justine

Re:

[barelybalancing.livejournal.com]

awwww my sweet! have him come and go to school with my mark!

-justine