using instead . . . instead

[mifall-ing.livejournal.com]

hi. i just joined. obviously 'cause i have a question. i figured i'd give instead a try this month - up until reading here tonight i didn't even know there was a keeper. i scrolled back a bunch of entries but only found this entry discussing it. how many people here actually use instead? does everyone have leakage? did your partner really not notice it during sex?

anyway, i'm trying it out for the first time right now and i'm highly nervous about it 'cause i hate switching from something i've come to mostly trust (tampons) - but i definitely see the perks (sex, longer time lapses, etc.). can everyone please tell me anything good or bad they know about using intead, and any tips if they have any?

thanks a lot.
-m

Comments

[screamingnympho.livejournal.com]

I use Instead. The only times I have a leakage are when I don't have it inserted correctly, and it is at a bit of an angle with the bone, rather than snug with it.

I've only had sex with it once, and that was a long time ago. He was fairly well endowed, and he felt it. Asked me what the hell I had inside me, too. *chuckle* That was amusing. I couldn't use Instead for the rest of that cycle, as it felt odd. Now if I want to have sex while on my period, I tell him that I'm on it, and if he has a problem with it, well... he isn't getting any. Because I'm not wearing the thing while having sex. To me at least, it feels odd if he hits it.

[iwillfearnoevil.livejournal.com]

To each their own, I guess it's different for everyone. Guys can usually feel it a little if they are reasonably well endowed, but I've never had any complaints. Quite the contrary, usually we're both grateful for the fact that there isn't any bloody mess to clean off ourselves or the sheets. I don't notice it during sex, myself. Instead is a lifesaver for me because my cycle makes me really really horny, but I have white sheets. ;-)

Tips on insertion: Don't me scared, and don't be afraid to push it way back in there....it needs to fit under your cervix. If you can feel it when it's in, you probably need to push it back a little further.

Also - you prob will spot more with instead than with a keeper. It isn't really anywhere as effective as tampons, leakage-wise. But on light flow days it works well.

Best of Luck!

[lilyofthewest.livejournal.com]

I've sometimes had difficulty getting Instead inserted into just the right place - so I try to insert it a bit before I have to go out anywhere and give it a few minutes to settle into place.

One nifty thing about Insteads is that you don't actually have to throw them out every 6 hours - you can rinse (or wash with a mild soap and then rinse really well) and reinsert. The cup portion of Insteads isn't durable enough to keep doing this indefinitely - but one cup can easily be used for a full cycle.

[sahm.livejournal.com]

hmmm...*Debates trying Instead*
im so used to super tampons...

[phuzzydee.livejournal.com]

i used instead for a few months before i got my keeper. i loved them. they worked like a charm for me, little leakage, i liked not having to worry about changing every 4 hours or whatever. i also liked to be able to sleep comfortably with them. i had sex once with it in, and my boi felt nothing, and it was nice not to have too big of a bloody mess afterwards like it tends to happen during period time romping. however, i love the keeper even more than i loved my instead, but making the progression from tampons, to instead, to the keeper, is definately the way i recomend going. good luck.

[herbalgirl.livejournal.com]

I like mine. We had sex with it just the other night, and it was only slightly noticeable to him, and not at all uncomfortable to either of us.

I do find that often when I go to the bathroom it needs to be readjusted, kinda starts to get pushed out, er, from going.

I also do the rinse & reuse for a few days. They're too expensive not to! (I've been having this weird on & off again bleedfest for a few months though, so no matter what I use it's hurting my wallet. :/ )

[jordand.livejournal.com]

i used instead a couple years ago.

and it just seemed like a big mess to me.

are you girls not having any problems removing them??

i never really thought about the idea of still being able to be sexually active while using them.

that's nice...