Stressed

[banzooken.livejournal.com]

I do apologize in advance if this has been asked, many times. I know how annoying that can get, so I did try to look back and see what I could see.



Ok, heres the deal. I've never had anyone to talk about these things with, by my own choice I didnt even tell my mother when it first started, and we have never talked. So most of what I know is the basics and selftaught and so forth. This works out well enough, but now I have a concern and I need someone to ask... you girls seemed right :)

To the point. I'm not set-a-clock by me regular, but close enough that I know that around the 16th it should be here. Well, last month my boyfriend visited for the first time (long story) and he came on the 6th, and I started on the 7th... at the very least a damn week early. And it ended the day he left, the 12th. Talk about bad luck. Now he is getting ready for his second visit, either tomorrow or Monday. And Wednesday we are planning on going to this awesome resort, and I am very excited. But I dont want my period showing up and ruining things, again. In theory, since Wednesday is only the 4th I should be just fine. But I have been paranoid about it, and today I noticed spotting. I'm scared its going to get worse from here and ruin our plans.
Keypoints I've noticed:
1. Spotting
2. An increased sex drive all last week (typical before)
3. No craving of chocolate (cliche, but I usually do)
4. No break outs (also usual)

So, I guess my questions are... could I be worrying over nothing and it wont come? I know stress can make it late, could it also make it early? Anyway I could get it to hold off a bit? (OK, I doubt that one is possible).

*sigh* I think my body hates me and whats to ruin things...

Comments

[urania.livejournal.com]

Stress can do all sorts of things, including make it early, late, nonexistant, painful... you name it. If your major issue is that you dislike the mess component, have you tried Instead softcups? They're marketed for, among other things, less-messy intercourse while you're on your period. I think their webpage is something like http://www.softcup.com and you can get them at Target and places... they're a little weird to get used to but I like them in general (tampons aren't comfy for me). Otherwise, dunno what to tell you... except that I hope your cycle cooperates, I know how that can be a pain

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[banzooken.livejournal.com]

Stupid stress, I need to learn how to stay calm I guess, hard for me since I have an anxiety problem.
So far so good, I just need it to hold off 3 more days *crosses fingers* Me and him discussed postponing a week if we need to though...
I will definitely look into that softcup thing... I dont know if it would work for me, things dont go in very well it seems.
Thank you for taking the time to answer my questions, I definitely appreciate it :)

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[urania.livejournal.com]

Most welcome! Sorry I can't provide a "magic cure"... I'm on the Pill myself so that generally predetermines when I'll "see red," so to speak. (However, extreme stress can still make me shift some... go figure!) My SO really doesn't mind it; frankly, he cares less about being intimate while I'm bleeding than I do. He's also really good about putting up with me whimpering about cramps, etc, so I sometimes spend more time with him when I'm bleeding (at least in summer when we're in the same area)!

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[banzooken.livejournal.com]

I wish there was a magic cure. Oh well.

My SO certianly wont complain if it is a factor, he would be more concerned about my comfort. Mostly I am just worried about being able to relax completely... we dont intend to have sex (we are both virgins, and we will stay that way) so thats not a worry. I just wanted to feel completely free, to not have it in the back of my mind. This is our first romantic get away, I just wanted it to be perfect.

But I'm still doing ok, I think it might just work out. I'm certianly hoping.