bloodlove

[thecronesway.livejournal.com]

Hm. I began this as a response to ravenfyre's post, but I began thinking, after reading her comments that I'd love to hear more about how some of you feel about this.

I've had two husbands who were not only not squeamish, but actually enjoyed my period as much as I generally do.
I, also, have a very high libido just before, and during my blood, and had discovered when I was quite young that orgasm during menstruation also helped the cramping and congestion I often experienced, as well as the headaches and crankiness. I've always said "I have a headache" is the poorest excuse a woman can give, if men only knew that orgasm expands the blood vessels which usually relieves most headaches!!! Well, it's good for lots of what ails you!! (Orgasm being the curative...NOT just having sex!! *cackle*
Anyway, I digress. I would never marry a man who was put off by a little (or alot of, for that matter) blood. That speaks to me of the whole patriarchal fear culture which has degraded, denigrated, and dis-empowered women since the dawn of christianity (and a bit before...).
My blood is a statement of my female power...the power to create life within my body...the power of destruction...passing the blood away...it is a sacrament to share that with my lover. To simply tolerate it is not sufficient. He should love and worship it...the scent, the color, the taste....The different textures of me inside and out when I bleed...the different types of blood and the difference of the love/sex experience during those times...the dark, thick sticky flow; the bright red, heavy, slippery flow; the resurgence of new blood after a vigorous fucking the day after one stops bleeding....
Forgive me, ladies, if anyone is offended. I am croning...beginning the time when I will no longer flow..no longer enjoy the bloodlove...moving on to another phase, and I wax nostalgic...
*sigh*
Anyway, as I said, I'd love to hear some comments on the above. Questions of the old woman are appropriate and acceptable as well...*cackle*

Comments

[fitzleraspberry.livejournal.com]

speaking as one who has never had sex before (still a virgin and still proud of it!) i'm not sure if i really agree with the 'poorest excuse' (i have a headache) part. for some women, having their period is very painful and all they can do is breathe. my mother had it that way, she would turn quite white and cry at the pain let alone have sex when she was in that much pain. but that's quite awesome that you find it wonderful.

and i do agree that i have the power to create life, my female power and such. that part was very empowering, what you wrote, and i agree whole heartedly with it. goddess bless you.

[thecronesway.livejournal.com]

Thank you so much for your response!!
Many blessings on your continued virginity, for as long as you so Will it What a joy to meet yet another daughter of the Goddess who revers her femininity and understands the sacred choice that is hers alone to make!!!!
I didn't intend to be unsympathetic to those women who truly suffer from menstrual symptoms such as those you speak of...my intention was to poke a bit of fun at those women who do indeed simply use it as an "excuse" To my mind, an "excuse" is unnecessary in the first place. If a woman doesn't choose to make love/have sex for any reason or for no reason it is to be respected absolutely!!!
My point was simply this. Orgasm expands the blood vessels, the constriction of which is what causes many headaches and some cramping, as well. It is also good to just help one relax and de-stress, if it's done well, with consideration, respect and ALWAYS consent!!
And your poor mother!! I'm assuming she is past the blood now, and no longer suffers from such pain? To the best of my knowledge that kind of pain is not normal, and should be treatable in a variety of methods, so please let me know if that's not the case, and perhaps I can recommend some herbs or other remedies.
In any wise, who knows what a loving talc or oil massage from a considerate partner might do for the worst menstrual symptom sufferer. In Light and Shadow, ~Thorne

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[fitzleraspberry.livejournal.com]

Yes, my mother finally went through the hystorectomy 2-3 years ago and her (whatever, cant' remember) was over the average size, like a baseball I think. And she's incredibly happy with her decision despite the fact of osteprosis and aging.

And to the women who use the headache as an excuse, they should just be honest.

[ravenfyre.livejournal.com]

*nod nod*
i'm with ya... i'd want my partner to be as much a part of it as i am. it's a wonderful gift, why not share it! my boyfriend works at a hospital, so he's by no means squeamish when it comes to blood... it's only blood, after all. we're both fascinated by it.
heh. half the reason why i got a keeper was just so i could SEE it :)

sex lessens my cramps immensely, and i get really really bad ones, so...
i think half the problem is that most women feel unsexy at that time - bloating, nausea, whatever else - and why would you want to have sex if you don't feel sexy? but like i said, it's the biggest turn-on to know that your partner thinks you're -especially- sexy when you're bleeding :) i feel better about myself, i don't have to feel embarassed, so that lets me enjoy sex a lot more.

"bloodlove"... hehe. i love that word :)

[thecronesway.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean about the severe cramps...I had them for years!!! And I suppose I know what you mean about the other "unsexy" symptoms....Myself, I generally had my PMS really "pre" I used to (and sometimes still do) Pray to just BLEED!!! As soon as I start, I feel sooo much better (except for the cramping)! Emotionally, mentally, and mostly physically! Not that I'm averse to a lil self comfort...snuggling up to a nice hot water bottle with "Sense and Sensability", or any one of a number of my favorite movies, but I'd usually so rather have some lengthy sex and then get on about my day!! *ha!*

[strangeflower.livejournal.com]

Simply- bravo!

[thecronesway.livejournal.com]

thank you!! *l* I went to your LJ, to see just what kind of woman would post your succint, but heartfelt comment, and had to laugh when I read your entry saying you must give the impression that all you do is take tests!!! Welllll.....maybe I'll hear more from you in future! ciaow!

[delicata77.livejournal.com]

I love you. Your words move me so much. I cannto wait to find a guy who will dig my menstruation with me....

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[thecronesway.livejournal.com]

Well....thank you, sweet. I hope your heart's desire is granted. I should have said at the outset, but perhaps wasn't thinking....that one needs must be very careful these days what with HIV and such. Please be VERY sure that you are both tested often and in a long term monogamous relationship! In fact, I should prolly post this now in the hut. *smooch*

Thank You!

[poppie.livejournal.com]

Yep, yup, uh huh, right on! As I, too, approach that age, I become more and more appreciative of those few days each month, and the wonderful man who enjoys every inch, phase, and nuance of the woman I am :)

I can't help but feel a bit smug knowing how fortunate I am to have a wonderfully sexy, sweet and sensitive partner!