why does everything suck?

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

Living in a girlbody is a crock of shit and the industry that supports it all is a scam.

So, a month or so ago I made plans to go visit a very cute very sexy boy out in California. Then one month ago I started bleeding. I said "shit, if I stay on this cycle I will be bleeding when I go visit the cute boy and that will suck because I won't get to screw him with wild abandon." So I went and refilled my prescription for pills, which I had given up on a couple of months ago, and decided to try them again. All month I faithfully took pills, intending to take them straight through the trip (no placebos) and not bleed until I got back. But what should happen but that 2 days ago I start seeing spots and today I am bleeding, right on schedule despite the pills. And my flight leaves in 2 hours.

So last night I went out and bought "Instead" since I heard that you can wear those and still have sex with them in. WHAT THE FUCK? How the hell is anyone expected to get their dick into me when there is a big thick plastic wall in the way? It just doesn't go in far enough!! I checked and the "Instead" are a full 1/2" larger in diameter than my old diaphragm is (that I haven't used in years).

So now I'm pissed off at the whole damned menstruation industry. Pills don't work, Instead don't work... and all I wanted was a good fuck.

(don't get me wrong, I'll have him anyway... but it will be a lot more messy and a lot less fun. and I hate flying so cramps + airplane headache will NOT be fun. gonna tank up on dramamine and aleve before I take off and hope I'll live)

Comments

[tyrsalvia.livejournal.com]

Put down some old towels on your bed, and get as damn messy as you feel like. Take a shower afterwards. Menstrual sex can be damn awesome.

[mactavish.livejournal.com]

I'm not comfortable with menstrual intercourse with people I don't have a fluid bond with, but if I were a little more comfortable, I'd definitely use the Reality female condom instead of Instead. I like Instead for bleeding, but it's too big for me to want to use for intercourse. That said, several other people here have said it's fine for intercourse.

BUT I also think it's possible to have plenty of good non-bloody sex even with Instead or a tampon if you just don't have intercourse. If the tampon isn't leaky (and you don't have a fluid bond), just tuck the string up inside and have oral sex, or use Instead in that case. Or use lots of fingers and stroking. It's possible to have really great sex without ever having intercourse.

With the one person I have a fluid bond with, we just put down a towel. He's fine with washing up afterwards (or have sex in the shower, woo!) and because we use condoms for birth control, just peeling off the latex takes care of a lot of the blood.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

yeah, it can be good, I just have this thing with not wanting my *first time* with someone new to be while I am bleeding. ah well. it turned out mostly OK.

[shannabanana.livejournal.com]

I think you're making a huge issue about something that really isn't that big of a deal. So you got your period. Shit happens. Oh well. It's not that big of a thing to make such a drama case over. Course, I see this whole post as you being selfish, but that's just my opinion.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

yeah and I *thought* this was supposed to be a place where I could whine about it without people being snippy. it's right in the damned userinfo.

You really can't expect that one month of taking the pill

[amparoblues.livejournal.com]

is going to get your body changing that quickly. There's a REASON that most doctors say to give the pill at least 3 months for things to get on track.

If you wanted the pill to work now, you shouldn't have quit taking it in the first place.

Re: You really can't expect that one month of taking the pill

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

If you wanted the pill to work now, you shouldn't have quit taking it in the first place

I quit taking it because it was making me horribly depressed and having all sorts of other issues which I don't really feel like going into again. that was months ago, long before I made any plans for this weekend. I figured it was worth another shot. And it really has been better. But, really, the expectation by the menstrual products industry that I should be willing to go through 3 month of physical and mental hell for the benefits of the pill is entirely ludicrous. I have plenty of friends to whom that did not happen.

[tiferkid.livejournal.com]

That sucks. I too hate cramps and being on an airplane. and when sseeing cute boy, isnt regular non-period sex just so much easier?
Why did the two have to happen at the same time? Sometimes life just doesnt play fair.

[michelleh324.livejournal.com]

Just try shower sex

[popidol.livejournal.com]

Actually, the Insteads won't really be in the way, it'll just cause a little extra friction.. because of the way the erm... uterus and vagina are.. tipped? tilted? It's not like a wall in the way in front of where he will be. More like a really low ceiling.
Anyway, that's been my experience with fingers, anyway. Haven't had hetero sex in quite a long time.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

I think what I forgot about was the fact that the vagina elongates when aroused. 'cause I stuck my fingers in myself to test it after I first inserted one and it was most definitely in the way... but later, when I was wet, it seemed to have moved up. I still wish they would make a smaller size though. I think it would work better.