irregular period

[michelleh324.livejournal.com]

I have the problem with my period being at different times.

I got my last one September 27th, and skipped October. But the month before, it was only 30 days before. I should be getting it soon, being as it is November 21st.. yet I fear I won't even get it.

Yes, I know that it is not uncommon to be irregular when you just got it.. but I got it first on May 31st. I've only had it 4 times. Do you know what could be wrong with me.
I'm only 14, and there is no way, none whatsoever, that I am gonna see a gyno. I prolly need to go on BC to have it regulated.. I'm not sexually active.. in any way. My sis is on BC for acne.. but I don't want to have to ask for it.

Help!

Comments

[almeda.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't worry for at least another year or two. Everyone's uneven until at least 17 or 18, in my experience - or farther. It's not 'normal' to get it on the dot of 28 days, at 3PM in the afternoon every fourth Wednesday, from the first one you get straight through for over forty years. That's abnormal as hell. :-> Birth control pills and other hormonal regulation have allowed the medical establishment to give the impression that non-28-day periods are abnormal, but they're not. If it doesn't hurt, don't sweat it - ESPECIALLY at your age!

However, any woman who menstruates should get gyno appointments every year. Period. New paragraph. It's a whole other world in there, and things can go wrong that you might not notice that can cause big problems down the line. Just get regular gyno checkups and all will be well - it's a little scary the first time, and pap smears aren't particularly fun, but (like going to the dentist) regular maintenance of your health can prevent disasters down the road.

Do you have a particular reason for being anti-gyno?

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[michelleh324.livejournal.com]

I'm just not comfortable with someone looking at me.

And my period (or lack there of) doesn't hurt. It's just that it's really abnormal.. in my own opinion.

[almeda.livejournal.com]

Hmm. Well, if you avoid the dentist because you 'don't like anyone looking at your teeth,' and get huge cavities, the price down the line is thousands of dollars of fillings, and a lot more pain than the cleanings and visits would have been. The analogy does hold somewhat to gynecological matters, but ultimately it's up to you - both the choice, and accepting the consequences of that choice.

I would reiterate that spotty weird periods are completely normal for you right now, and add that right now, your body's hormone system is learning how to be grown-up. Going on hormonal control will wrench that aside in favor of a regimented, enforced-by-sledgehammer artificial system. Many things about your current growing are regulated in turn by your hormones, and screwing with that can and probably will cause all kinds of growth-related weirdness and side effects. I wouldn't recommend it. Many doctors (and only a gynocologist is truly qualified to prescribe hormonal controls) won't prescribe birth control pills to anyone below 17 or 18, for this reason, unless it's a medical emergency (endometriosis, etc).

[geminigirl]

If you're 14 and you just got your period for the first time in May, unless you're sexually active you just need to give it some time. There's probably nothing wrong with you. Some people take a few years to get regular periods...I got mine for the first time when I was 13, and I think it finally became regular sometime around 15 or 16.


It's frustrating and annoying to not know when you're period is coming. You can try charting your cycle to see if there's anything predictable about it, and keep a diary of what PMS like symptoms you have might help you know when it's coming.

Hang in there...it'll settle down.

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[michelleh324.livejournal.com]

I keep it on my calendar when I get it, and when it's over.... but I don't get PMS symptoms.. i think... I can be cranky at any time of the month, not just that time in particular.

[chaiya.livejournal.com]

Dude, I first got my period when I was turning 13, and I still haven't regulated (10 years later). Some women just don't. But going on the pill to regulate it falsely when I was 16 sucked for other reasons. Talk to your regular doctor about it, see what he/she says.

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[michelleh324.livejournal.com]

I don't have a regular doctor yet. I just moved here in August, and haven't had a reason to see any doctor other than my orthodontist.

[heartsabuse713.livejournal.com]

I've gone through this just recently, and I wouldn't worry about it. I used to be so irregular. I started my period when I was 12 and I went through 4 years of heavy 10-12 day long periods that came every 2 weeks and were accompanied by extreme cramping. My doctors finally became concerned recently because they thought I could be losing too much blood and become anemic. So even though I "vowed never to go to a gynocologist" like you, I went and everythings been so much better. It really isn't bad at all. If you end up going, make sure you feel as comfortable as possible with the person. If you pick a female, she'll definetly understand EXACTLY what you're going through. I picked a really great lady and she was so understanding about my nervousness. I think that helped a lot. I was put on bc and everythings been going good. If I were you I would really wait a couple years though. Unless its threatening other medical problems. Good luck.