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[mollyisadiva03.livejournal.com]

Um yeah so if you go to get an exam at the gyno, can they tell your parents if you aren't a virgin? because i had sex with my boyfriend and we decided to stop, but i have to go to the gyno and i dont want my mom to find out. Are they aloud to tell her?

Ugh and yes, i am on the rag. I feel nasty

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[i-amthecosmos.livejournal.com]

No they can't. It's against doctor-patient confiadentuality,and it doesn't matter if your folks pay the bills,they don't have to know anything you don't want them too.

You will probably get a lecture on STD's and birth control if the doc says anything at all. He(or she)might try to get you to start having Pap smears,since you've been sexually active. I don't know how old you are,but it might be a hard thing to explain to your mom. Good luck the whole thing. You should be fine.

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[laliari.livejournal.com]

heh...i posted my reply 2 seconds after yours. if i hadn't handed my husband a glass of water i would have been first!!! heh. just funny.

hugs,
la

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[laliari.livejournal.com]

make that 2 minutes. jeez...i can't get my time straight tonight!

nope, they can't tell your parents a thing...

[laliari.livejournal.com]

dr./patient confidentiality. your secret is safe with your doctor, even if you tell her. also, if you don't tell her, really there is no way for her to know that you are not a virgin. contrary to popular opinion, not all women are born with a hymen - the thin skin that covers over most of the vaginal opening - and many who are "break" this skin during their lifetime doing regular activities (roughhousing as kids...etc). so imho - nothin for you to worry about darlin!

hugs,
la

Re: nope, they can't tell your parents a thing...

[purrthecat.livejournal.com]

This is true. My hymen broke when I was 9 during a water fight with my cousin. My mother saw the blood when I went to the toilet and thought I was an early starter. Because I'd had no real sex ed up to that point, it was very very weird being told that I had to wear this "thing" (pad) all night... but lucky me,... no more blood.
Just thought I'd share. :) I suppose it's a good thing I wasn't raised in a country where virgins had to have a hymen.. otherwise I'd have been in big trouble!

[little-one-meg.livejournal.com]

Might I make a suggestion?

I have conducted many many admission interviews for pregnant women. A lot of these ladies bring everyone to this hospital including their partner, parents, and great aunt nellie. Sometimes people get offended when I ask EVERYONE (including husband) to step out for the 5 minute interview.

Ya have to think.....do you want to tell me all about your elective terminations, and your STD history with your parents right there? NO, probably not.

Anyway, what I am getting at is LEAVE YOUR MAMA at home. or at least in the waiting room.

Also, before anyone jumps my case about making the partner leave....not all partners know everything about a patient's past. I also have to ask about domestic violence/abuse. The line of questioning works better when a possible abuser isn't in the room.

[yellowrosetx.livejournal.com]

Actually, requesting people leave the room during that sort of interview is a good thing. A doctor was inviting my husband into the exam room once and I told him no. He, the doctor, looked at me strangely, but it's simple, my husband makes me uncomfortable during a medical exam. He has a tendency to forget that I'm long past the needing someone to translate my Percoset induced gibberish to people and answers for me. Yeesh... annoying.

no argument here

[eyelid.livejournal.com]

certainly it's not a weird/bad thing for a woman to have 5 minutes alone with her doctor! How dependant do you have to be to not be able to be without your husband/so in the room for five minutes?

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[little-one-meg.livejournal.com]

Well, actually, I am a nurse. But I think I should still get at least 5 minutes since I am the care provider until the doc shows up 5 minutes before the baby is born.

And sometimes it IS hard...when a woman is actively laboring and is hurting, I really don't like sending him away. But I need that info. And I don't want to assume that everyone else knows.....

[yellowrosetx.livejournal.com]

No, there aren't allowed to tell her.

Mom should go to the doctor's office, IF you want her there for morale support, but not in the exam room. Ask for a nurse or other female medical professional as a chaperone if you have a male GYN. They are also bound by rules of confidentiality.